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Are middle age women a turn off for middle aged men?

(54 Posts)
nolongerattractive Fri 16-Nov-12 10:46:32

I say this because this is the impression I get from OH. He will make a point of looking at young, slim, attractive ladies but I dont notice him looking at ladies of his own age group 50+. Are we middle aged ladies a turn off for men? I know George Clooney would'nt fancy me grin

somebloke123 Fri 16-Nov-12 15:43:01

As a middle-aged male with a wife in her early 50s I find mature women (e.g. 40s and 50s) more attractive and interesting on the whole.

It's one reason why I find it hard to muster any great interest one way or the other in the debate about Sun Page 3 girls. To me they (though obviously "fit") aren't that interesting, and the photos seem reasonably tastefully done.

Horsemad Fri 16-Nov-12 16:02:09

Well I like men my own age and actually even a bit older than me (I'm late 40s but am told I look younger). HOWEVER... they are ALL quite fit and look good for their age, so not just any old bloke will do!! grin

Jellykat Fri 16-Nov-12 16:08:46

Eek.. well if men only tend to look at younger women, i (being a 49 yr old singleton) better develop a taste for pensioners confused

Seriously though, i agree with Yokel, my ogling keeps in line with my age.. Any younger and i view them the same as DS1.

joblot Fri 16-Nov-12 16:18:01

Hell no izzy go for it

I have no problem with youth, have had more than my fair share so to speak, just don't prize it about owt else. In fact can be rather boring. Can't beat middle aged wenches

B1ueberryMuff1n Fri 16-Nov-12 16:23:18

Most 50 year old men know deep down that women much more than 5-10 years arent' going to look twice at them never mind have sex with them unless they're handsome, slim, well-dressed etc.... They may drool over 25 year olds but if they ever want to have sex again, they realise that that is not going to be with women 'like that'.

I think. I'm a woman though. Who ever knows what men really think! adn if you knew for sure you'd be more depressed I think.

digerd Fri 16-Nov-12 16:25:09

I joined a marriage bureau when I was 55, 3 years after losing my gorgeous DH to cancer. I had letters from 70+ and they looked old enough to be my father. Any younger ones didn't catch my heart either. I had 2 visit me at home for a cup of tea, and one I showed photos to, just kept saying "Wow she's lovely" - it was my daughter at age 30 but also age 15!!!

The other one just kept talking about another woman he had met, who he knows now he should have married as she married someone else, as he was unsure at the time. I wasn't attracted to either, and realised I didn't have my heart ,anyway, to give to anyone else, as my late DH had taken it with him to his grave ( sobs)

Horsemad Fri 16-Nov-12 16:33:18

Digerd never say never - the last wedding I attended, the combined age of the bride & groom was 140!!

janelikesjam Fri 16-Nov-12 17:10:53

Caught between Somebloke and Digerd hmm and it is a bit of a "weird" issue. I do think there is alot of truth in original post.

OTOH, from a woman's point of view - I can find some men in their 50s very, very attractive, and others (the majority it has to be said) absolutely never in a month-of-Sundays.

HellothisisJoanie Fri 16-Nov-12 17:12:43

as i hit 40 I discovered a fair amount of the under 30s seemt o like older women. they wouldnt if they had to see them nekkid though obv

MardyArsedMidlander Fri 16-Nov-12 17:14:41

'they wouldnt if they had to see them nekkid though obv'

Erm- speak for yourself honey shock ANY man of ANY age should be damn grateful I'm dropping my keks for him!

HellothisisJoanie Fri 16-Nov-12 17:15:04

ergh ergh

dont call me Honey

I am not working class

Helltotheno Fri 16-Nov-12 18:01:55

I think there is a case where older women, probably older than 50, are seen as invisible.

Plenty of very hot over 50 women around the place so I'd say you'd need to put that forward by at least 10 years grin
In fact one of the things at play is that a lot of women 40+ are looking after themselves very well, especially in terms of weight and fitness, and often look a lot better than younger women.

Re the OP, men look at any hot woman imo.

janelikesjam Fri 16-Nov-12 20:06:19

I will think about this relevant subject and respond tomorrow hmm

pointythings Fri 16-Nov-12 20:11:46

I've only just started fancying a particular younger man. His name is Daniel Craig, and he is a whole 23 days younger than I am.

Apart from that it's still older men all the way, the young ones are either too pretty or don't have enough to say.

janelikesjam Fri 16-Nov-12 20:15:01

Yes Daniel Craig <sigh> But I discovered him in that fantastic film "The Mother" interestinly allegedly about older women, but really about mothering, long before said actor's role in Casino Royale <gasps>

FastLoris Fri 16-Nov-12 20:36:16

B1ueberryMuff1n I think you understand men pretty damn well.

In purely physical terms, people of both sexes tend to find young people more sexually attractive than old people. Always have, always will. Love, respect, good intentions and gender politics don't enter into it - they're a different matter.

Thread's got to win a prize for stating the obvious.

B1ueberryS0rbet Fri 16-Nov-12 20:36:52

Was it frank skinner who said that any woman over 35 was ropey? i think he was about 45 himself when he said it.

Horsemad Fri 16-Nov-12 20:43:59

Ha! And Frank Skinner is a perfect example of Manhood, isn't he grin

janelikesjam Fri 16-Nov-12 20:48:49

For sure.

flatbellyfella Fri 16-Nov-12 20:54:55

I think it's more a case of, after child birth women in middle age tend to have fuller figures,that they hide,so don't apear so attractive to lots of middle aged men,when there are hoards of young girls out walking around in shorts & tights showing off their bodies for all to admire. I don't think for one moment that the young women give a second thought about the middle aged men ogling them.
I see many middle aged women with slim figures that are beautiful & well dressed,but seem to be unapproachable. I also know lots of larger ladies that are just as beautiful,with outstanding personalities,so for me it's more about the personality of the person rather than age or size of the woman that makes her attractive .
(I work in a mainly female work place)

efcmcr Fri 16-Nov-12 22:46:18

I'm a man and like older women. It's not a "thing" or anything, however I can certainly see a lot of attractiveness in a confident woman in her mid 40's (I'm 34).

I find younger women often have less confidence in themselves, and seem to be too busy overthinking everything to actually enjoy themselves?

Sorry, some huge generalisations there (I am a bloke, remember), but yes, older women can be lovelier than their younger counterparts grin

YouBloodyWolf Sat 17-Nov-12 05:52:31

In a word, no. Not for me, anyway. A 20 year old may be perkier in certain areas and be able to stop traffic with just an arse, but I've found that as I've got older (I'm 40) I'm much more drawn to someone I could potentially connect with and relate to. I'd much sooner flirt with someone my own age (not that I would, etc etc). And the battle scars of reaching that age are nothing to be ashamed of.

Just look at the popularity of 'MILF' porn!

YouBloodyWolf Sat 17-Nov-12 06:01:36

That last line was flippant, btw. I'm not saying that milf porn should be reassuring to middle aged women.

Lovingfreedom Sat 17-Nov-12 06:56:00

That's outrageous Youbloodywolf....are you saying that MILFs aren't perky? My arse caused a multiple pile up the other day..... wink

YouBloodyWolf Sat 17-Nov-12 09:02:04

No! I'm not saying for one moment that that's the case - it's just that younger ladies tend to be more obvious about it.

I'll stop digging now.

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