Me and DM have an ok relationship, I think. However I do struggle to understand her weird and petty behaviour at times.
We used to argue a lot when I was a teenager, her blaming me for starting the arguments and being stroppy. I could have sworn she used to wind me up on purpose. I moved out when I was 19, moved to UK, had fun, met DP, settled down, throughout which I didn't really think about it much and probably accepted that I was a difficult teenager after all.
I think of myself as pretty laid back person and it takes a lot for me to get really cross. She is the only person so far who can make my blood boil and leave me seething for ages. She does that to my DF and DSis as well.
Her favourite thing to do when going out with me/DF/Dsis is to get ready to go and then leave the person who is going with her standing by the door while she has to go back in to tidy up, look for her phone, go to the loo etc. The average time waiting for her is about 10 min. She does this every single time. Another example that springs to mind - my Dsis recently came to visit and travelled by coach for 4 hours. DM went to pick her up (10 minutes walk). Dsis was in a hurry as the loo on the coach was broken and she was bursting. As soon as she told this to DM, Dm started to look into every single shop window they were passing - newsagents and DIY stores included and generally trying her best to be as slow as possible. Dsis was furious of course.
I could come up with hundreds of examples like that. When we get wound up and have a go at her she plays the victim, accusing us of being horrid to her, denying that she does this on purpose and telling me and my Dsis that we have our fathers bad temper. (he does NOT have a bad temper)
She is getting worse, I am mainly getting worried because I now have DD (1) and I don't want her to be exposed to us arguing. Ignoring DM's behaviour does not work, she will step up and do something worse until she gets a reaction she wants. Telling her in advance that we will not wait for her does not work either. Both me and my Dsis have walked off without her in anger several times, she doesn't care and acts like nothing happened. I would really appreciate any advice on how to deal with her.
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My DM starting petty arguments and attention seeking
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qwertina · 15/11/2012 12:51
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