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Ginny pigs prove the options are of limited quality - Dating thread 28

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lubeybooby Sun 11-Nov-12 18:45:54

New one - chit chat all dating stuff here.

Off you go! grin

mercury7 Sat 17-Nov-12 17:26:30

it is strange Milk, I absolutely DREAD those first meetings confused

Milkandlotsandlotsofwine Sat 17-Nov-12 17:23:27

I think it's just because I'm a bit technology phobic in general mercury

It's strange what different people are afraid of. I feel ill at the thought of skyping, yet meeting a total stranger in the flesh doesn't phase me at all.

KirstyWirsty Sat 17-Nov-12 17:18:59

pixie 'my' surgeon is in Glasgow and never expressed any interest in my DD

Who's creating the next thread then ??

mercury7 Sat 17-Nov-12 17:18:52

I dont understand the reluctance to skype?
It doesnt make me at all nervous, and I find I'm more relaxed about actual meetings if I've already 'met' him on skype

Milkandlotsandlotsofwine Sat 17-Nov-12 17:12:31

mercury Yes, they do love to give their numbers out don't they? I find it really odd. Personally I'm really protective of my privacy. It's astonishing the number of times people have asked if they can add me to their FB as well! I don't have anybody on my FB I haven't met in RL. Perhaps I'm overly cautious but it's my golden rule.

I never skype. I'd be terrified. You're definitely braver than me. Fortunately my man boy has both a very sexy voice (ridiculously deep & posh for his age) and a very cute face. So I really can't complain too much.

mercury7 Sat 17-Nov-12 17:03:10

agree Milk, but I find men are always v v keen to swap numbers and start texting, perhaps they are less easily 'huffed' than women?

I try to get them to come on skype asap so if I can figure out if I'm likely to fancy them, men seem more keen to speak on the phone first.
I dont find that at all helpful, a sexy voice often turns out to belong to a bloke I dont fancy at all!

Milkandlotsandlotsofwine Sat 17-Nov-12 16:53:54

Hahaha Mercury I missed the dominant alpha male part. Yes, it is not a promising hint of the delights to follow!

Yoga That's the trouble with texts. It's so easy to misconstrue them. In all honestly I prefer to keep texting to a minimum with guys I've just met & may like. Mainly to keep the chances of you huffing each other to the minimum. I got a text off man boy yesterday talking about our date this Thursday & I literally had NO idea what he was on about. Then he pointed out that it was something we'd discussed in a previous conversation that I had totally forgotten about. blush I suspect he was a bit put out by my lack of recollection!

JulietteMontague Sat 17-Nov-12 16:48:20

Yoga yep, got to get them wherever smile

mercury7 Sat 17-Nov-12 16:47:55

and anyone who says he's a 'dominant alpha male' is just asking to be shot down right there on the spot!!

Yogagirl17 Sat 17-Nov-12 16:46:56

Mercury - xposts but yes

mercury7 Sat 17-Nov-12 16:46:12

Milk I agree, but on the other hand he's wearing his heart on his sleeve so we can all see where he's coming from and avoid him from the get-go wink

Yogagirl17 Sat 17-Nov-12 16:46:06

milk the thing is I think he thought he was being funny cause he doesn't speak that way but his texts are always a bit odd.

juliette I'm on my phone just now but can I pm u later?

mercury7 Sat 17-Nov-12 16:43:35

Yogaperhaps he meant it in a joking I might send a 'yo dude wassup' text if I was feeling especially exuberant, it doesnt mean I have actual aspirations for a fake Jamaican accentgrin

Milkandlotsandlotsofwine Sat 17-Nov-12 16:40:49

This profile is a perfect example of how not to sell yourself:

Surely starting off by saying what you are NOT looking for makes you sound incredibly negative and nit picky?

JulietteMontague Sat 17-Nov-12 16:40:17

YogaI'm on gsm...

Milkandlotsandlotsofwine Sat 17-Nov-12 16:37:27

Yoga He addressed you as "babe". That in it's own is a dumping offence & that's before I even get to the rest of that message.

StellaBrillante Sat 17-Nov-12 16:35:24

I don't know lubeybooby, there are plenty of men out there who are pretty open about not wanting anything to do with a single mum. As you said, one shouldn't feel less worthy but there's a stigma attached to it. I know I work incredibly hard to support us, always have done, and I am not a replacement daddy but I don't think everyone sees it that way. I remember the coach at my son's old rugby club insisting that I should ask to be exempted from paying for my son's membership. Ok, so he didn't know what my financial circumstances were and perhaps he was simply trying to be nice but what a big assumption to make! I had to say that with two holidays coming up, I couldn't see how I could justify not being able to pay the £50 pa like everyone else - yes, I was a bit sarcastic when I said that...
So my point is that the same attitude can be applied to relationships. Just like some married mums think that we are after their DHs. Not all of them though! wink

FateLovesTheFearless Sat 17-Nov-12 16:34:44

That made no sense...but they can be out of yours. hugs kopperberg grin

Yogagirl17 Sat 17-Nov-12 16:32:16

I find the whole 'no players or cheats' thing very odd too. Like you say, do they really think a played or cheat is going to take any notice? Cause by definition they're not so much about honesty and respecting boundaries... Duh.

Meanwhile starting to cringe a bit at having to give the engineer the brush off. On the one hand he's a sweet guy and has been a total gentleman. On the other hand, he just sent me a text that says 'hey babe how's it hangin?'! hmm

FateLovesTheFearless Sat 17-Nov-12 16:29:03

No one is out of your league. But they can be out of yours grin

I am busy today, got an evening of college buddies round for drinks. Scheduling a hangover for tomorrow smile

mercury7 Sat 17-Nov-12 15:49:57

Why do people say 'no players or cheats' though
if anything it's counter productive...suggests the person has previously been a victim of players and cheats and as such maybe the type who is easy prey

mercury7 Sat 17-Nov-12 15:46:46

think that POF profile has been copied from somewhere else, I'm pretty sure I've read something like it before?

Milkandlotsandlotsofwine Sat 17-Nov-12 15:26:37

Pixie link to dishy docs profile please so we may assess? grin

Thread is quiet today. Are people actually out having lives instead of lying on sofa feeling sorry for themselves like moi?

Pixiebelle123 Sat 17-Nov-12 15:10:03

I do find that being a single mum puts lots of men off in the world of OD which is frustrating because I'm not looking for a replacement dad for my kids. But it's also difficult because I'm very conscious of protecting the DCs, a surgeon was messaging me a few weeks ago (maybe Kirsty's?!) and he asked me a few times how the kids were. Maybe he was trying to be nice but something about it felt wrong so I stopped replying to his messages.

On a separate note, the dishy Dr who messaged me last night on OKC has rated me 5 stars apparently - he really is rather lovely. <sighs> you London ladies seem to have all the best men!

SweetSeraphim Sat 17-Nov-12 15:05:12

Oh my god, that profile! What an utter cunt. And as if they're his photos! Ugh. I wouldn't go near his scabby cock if you paid me.

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