Come and give me a virtual slap (waiting for a text)

[natsnuts]

I think my five year relationship is probably over. I don't want it to be but (for possibly good reasons I.e. personal issues in his life) my dp has been withdrawing from me for a month or so and I'm hanging in as asked him how he would feel if I ended it and he said he didn't know. So there is hope... Pathetic.
We both went out last night seperately and stayed away. I text him to say I was home safetly as I normally would but no text back and I've been up and looking impatiently at my phone now for two hours.
I think he has "checked out" and I feel so sad. Wondering if the personal issues (which are pretty bad however) are a red herring and if he just doesn't want me anymore. Arghhhhh come and tell me to grow up!!! I'm better than this, right?

[twolittlebundles]

your time is worth more than watching a phone.

Whether he texts or not, you have no control over it and you may as well do something fun/interesting/useful in the meantime.

It's not pathetic to care about a relationship that has lasted 5 years, it's normal. But find something more fulfilling to do for the moment if you can.

Do YOU want HIM anymore?

[natsnuts]

Not like this Two, no.

[twolittlebundles]

well then, now's a great time to make a list of all the things you DO want in your life. Could you think of this as a time to think about what's working, what's not working and what you want to do about it?

You can't make him do anything, and waiting for him to figure himself out will leave you feeling powerless. You don't have to make any huge decisions; just remind yourself of what you can control and focus on that. And get some excellent chocolate if you can.

[izzyizin]

[twolittlebundles]

Izzy, how did you come to have a red herring in the freezer? I have only trout...

Nats if you can't sleep and can't think of anything good to do, read some MN classics threads instead. But sleep is much better (is that blasphemy?).

[izzyizin]

It was most probably a left over from another thread which got mixed up with a load of old cod fillets two

[twolittlebundles]

well it shows excellent economy and foresight

[twolittlebundles]

nats sorry about the fish hijack. I hope you have an ok day. It is late where I am so need to get to bed, but I am hoping you get some clear answers soon. Limbo sucks.