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Come and give me a virtual slap (waiting for a text)

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natsnuts Sun 11-Nov-12 08:24:37

I think my five year relationship is probably over. I don't want it to be but (for possibly good reasons I.e. personal issues in his life) my dp has been withdrawing from me for a month or so and I'm hanging in as asked him how he would feel if I ended it and he said he didn't know. So there is hope... Pathetic.
We both went out last night seperately and stayed away. I text him to say I was home safetly as I normally would but no text back and I've been up and looking impatiently at my phone now for two hours.
I think he has "checked out" and I feel so sad. Wondering if the personal issues (which are pretty bad however) are a red herring and if he just doesn't want me anymore. Arghhhhh come and tell me to grow up!!! I'm better than this, right?

twolittlebundles Sun 11-Nov-12 08:44:36

your time is worth more than watching a phone.

Whether he texts or not, you have no control over it and you may as well do something fun/interesting/useful in the meantime.

It's not pathetic to care about a relationship that has lasted 5 years, it's normal. But find something more fulfilling to do for the moment if you can.

Do YOU want HIM anymore?

natsnuts Sun 11-Nov-12 08:48:30

Not like this Two, no. sad

twolittlebundles Sun 11-Nov-12 09:02:08

well then, now's a great time to make a list of all the things you DO want in your life. Could you think of this as a time to think about what's working, what's not working and what you want to do about it?

You can't make him do anything, and waiting for him to figure himself out will leave you feeling powerless. You don't have to make any huge decisions; just remind yourself of what you can control and focus on that. And get some excellent chocolate if you can.

izzyizin Sun 11-Nov-12 09:05:19

<<defrosts red herring fillet and uses it to slap natsnuts's chops>>

As you sound grown up to me, all you need to do is cling to the knowledge that you are very definitely a lot better than this and, regardless of whether you and your current dp split, it will work itself out for the good of all concerned.

Now take two's advice and find a fun thing to do this morning, or go back to bed for some extra zzzzz's having put your mobile somewhere out of sight and out of hearing smile

twolittlebundles Sun 11-Nov-12 09:18:15

Izzy, how did you come to have a red herring in the freezer? I have only trout...

Nats if you can't sleep and can't think of anything good to do, read some MN classics threads instead. But sleep is much better (is that blasphemy?).

izzyizin Sun 11-Nov-12 09:27:00

It was most probably a left over from another thread which got mixed up with a load of old cod fillets two grin

twolittlebundles Sun 11-Nov-12 09:28:21

well it shows excellent economy and foresight grin

twolittlebundles Sun 11-Nov-12 09:45:59

nats sorry about the fish hijack. I hope you have an ok day. It is late where I am so need to get to bed, but I am hoping you get some clear answers soon. Limbo sucks.

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