S'me Stratters. I cba to name change and you'd all guess it was me anyway.
I have nobody but my DDs. No family. My family are v v toxic and I was the scapegoat. No friends. I cant bring myself to trust anyone enough. Apart from the DDs, and people like the dentist, my GP, the only people I 'talk' to are my XPILs and my XH. I don't leave the house, I am terrified of everyone and everything, and I have no trust. This time last year I wasn't quite so bad, but it's steadily got worse and worse.
ATOS, in their wisdom, decided that I was perfectly ok. They lied and said that I went on my own (I didn't), and put the opposite of what I said down. I was interviewed by a physiotherapist FGS. I appealed and was told I wouldn't get a tribunal for 18 months. That was in March.
I filled in the paperwork. Made it very clear that it was impossible for me to represent myself, told them i had noone who could attend for me, told them the real version of what happened in my interview. Told my GP what had happened. Went to see my old Psychiatrist, who I've seen on and off since having DD2. I'm having fortnightly counselling but have only just started. I know I need to sort this out, but it's so hard without any support. I have nobody to ask to represent me, and nobody has offered to.
I planned to get a letter from my psychiatrist and counsellor, and send it as supporting evidence. I spoke to the DWP, who said it was clearly a mistake and not to worry.
Today I got a letter from the tribunal service in Peterborough. The appeal was held on the 9th. I had no forewarning that it was going to take place then. Nobody told me.
My appeal has failed. I have no fucking idea what to do next, and I can't cope with even thinking about it. I have never felt so alone and helpless.
I don't know Selks. Nobody has given me any advice, even when I've asked. I wish I'd asked on here when I first found out, but I didn't want anyone knowing IYSWIM. Now it's too late, and I've realised I don't care if you all know anyway.
Well I guess nothing's going to get sorted out tonight so hard as it is, best to try not to churn it over in your mind overnight. I'd suggest trying to sleep and bump the thread tomorrow for daytime folks who might be able to offer more advice than I can. I'll check in here tomorrow - hope you can sleep x
Anxiety, panic attacks, and terrible, terrible depression. I basically don't go out, I'm not even comfortable in my front garden, unless I've got someone with me. The only place I feel safe is inside my house and my back garden. I can do the drs, dentists, etc because they are safe, known places and I don't have to talk to strangers. I take 40mg citalopram, just come down from 60 because they can't prescribe it any more, 100mg seroquel xl, thyroxine, and a shed load for asthma.
First thing is to do nothing at the moment. Tomorrow; gather all paperwork; the whole shit bundle. Look at it; feel the fear;: let it sink in and then just walk away from the whole pile. Two hours minimum. Then..Pick up a highlighter; highlight the dates only in the shit pile. Force yourself to not read the content.. and then walk away again.
I can't help again until late Tuesday night. But I will.
Definitely get some legal help, i would suggest a local law centre or advice centre. CAB are great but you might end up seeing a volunteer to start with who is not a Welfare Rights specialist. Call CLS (community legal services) who are googlable and have a helpline to find out who can help in your area.
I work at an advice centre and although i am not a welfare rights specialist i know that the appeal success rate is really positive. Speed is of the essence though as there will be a tight deadline for you to respond. Good luck
That's terrible, but so unfair that it wont stand up - surely. I have zero experience of this but in official matters its usually a good idea to get some facts in writing. Dates, names etc. And send them recorded delivery ASAP. Can a DD run to the post office for you tomorrow? Get the process started while you gather support from GP etc. Good luck. Bloody ATOS want stringing up.