My dd has never been a great sleeper. At 18 months I can count on one hand the times she has slept through to the morning. DH and I are clearly suffering because of this.
Add to this, Im grieving for the loss of my parents last year and trying to cope with looking after my elderly grandad. And I'm not feeling well. Nothing life threatening but I feel awful. I've had to work extra the last couple of weeks too.
My DH got a promotion and although it means slightly more money, he says until he "establishes" himself he has to work long hours. Most nights he isn't home until 9pm. Sometimes it is even later. He is so knackered that he basically comes in, eats then goes to bed.
Anyway, this week he has had a weeks holidays. Now I don't expect him to be Cinderella but on the 3 days dd went to nursery. He has done nothing around the house. In days gone by we used to split everything 50/50 but with me usually being p/t recently I've been doing the bulk. Everything, except his shirts for work. I also do everything for dd. I did think that this week, with me working 5 days, running grandad to appointments and not feeling well he might have stepped up. Wrong. In the 3 days dd went to nursery, he has done nothing.
The house is a tip. Not one solitary dish has been washed. I'm seriously fucked off that everything now appears to be my responsibility. Must have missed that part in the ante-natal classes,
He has also made noises about when i go back full time, we will have more money. Is he kidding? We would need a bloody maid just to clean up after him. I've had enough. I tried to speak to him but he says there isn't a problem. End of conversation.
My grandad then phones to remind me, about taking him to the remembrance service. DH says "great, you can take dd as she has missed you with you working so much."
Yes, I've been working but still have her from 4:30pm until dropped off the next morning every day. He is actually hoping he can have another long lie.
Of course he might not be so tired if he didn't spend hours on xbox live at night.
I will always do everything I can for dd. however, I didn't realise I was now his parent too.
I am totally fed up and there is no-one really in rl I can moan to. Sorry and thanks for getting to the end of this.
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Dramajustfollowsme · 10/11/2012 23:49
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