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I've finished 50 Shades and am ashamed to say my sex drive has dropped!

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bigbluesky · 09/11/2012 12:21

I am ashamed to say that, even though I thought the 50 shades book were a load of rubbish, it did wonders for the old sex life. Now i've finished them my sex drive has definately diminished. How can i get it back?

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 09/11/2012 12:29

That's the trouble when you get reliant on porn Wink ... real life is never as satisfying.

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Lueji · 09/11/2012 13:46

You read it again?

Read another similar book?

Work on your memory?

:o

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rainbowbreeze · 09/11/2012 16:52

I've just bought the first Sylvia Day book its meant to be similar.. Grin

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fluffyraggies · 09/11/2012 17:02

For the third time in a couple of months i've given these books back to their owner - unread.

Fed up with people keep insisting i read the darn things and leaving me the books (or passing them to me through DH as in the last instance) when i've already said NO THANKS. Grrrrrrrrr.

Not a great contribution to the thread. Just needed to get that out :)

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AnyFucker · 09/11/2012 18:15

Utter bilge those books. No wonder your libido has taken a nose dive. Reading shite fiction makes me feel like shite too. Reading about an abusive relationship in the name of "entertainment" even more so

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MunchkinsMumof2 · 09/11/2012 18:46

Hear hear AnyFucker, I'm fed up with people telling me what well written books they are and how the main character is just confused and emotionally damaged.......emotional abuser more like!

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pastpresent · 09/11/2012 18:51

YY, AF. Unbearable controlling creepy stalker meets dismal whiner, and the sex wasn't even kinky. Dire.

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Iggly · 09/11/2012 18:53

Proud to say I've never read them and never will. I'm no pride mind!

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Iggly · 09/11/2012 18:53

*prude that is

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TantrumsandBananas · 09/11/2012 18:54

Yep, a friend turned up with it for me to read, never asked for it, don't want to read it.

Not opposed to the odd bit of literotica, but something about a book that everyone and his sister has read, and is for sale in local supermarket just turns me completely off.

I like to keep it "my dirty little secret, what I indulge in/ Don't wanna stick in in my trolly along with this weeks frozen chips and yogurts!

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Whatnowffs · 09/11/2012 18:55

I was unfortunate enough to read that pile of shit (50 shades) i can tell you it did NOTHING for my sex life, i actually was quite into BDSM before, not anymore! Yuck.

Munchkin - people tell you that it is well written???

FFS - i am also sick of every time i check out my kindle to buy a new book all it comes up with is copycats of 50 shades, they eitehr change the colour or the amount - its insulting!

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lisad123 · 09/11/2012 18:57

I read the first chapter, it was a poorly written load of tripe! I'm sorry if your relying on a book for a sex life you need to find some help.

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skyebluesapphire · 09/11/2012 23:56

Try Black Lace books. Pure porn Grin

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tiredofwaitingforitalltochange · 10/11/2012 00:06

50 shades took me an afternoon to read. An afternoon I'll never see again, and I regret it massively. Life is too precious to read this shit.

Badly written, boriing, none of the characters remotely realistic or sympathetic. Sex scenes are coy... 'down there', not even good as erotica. And a complete nadir in terms of women's rights.

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Darkesteyes · 10/11/2012 00:30

YY to skyeblue I like the Black Lace books too.
Pure porn but well written Unlike 50 Shades.
Easy Living magazine have jumped on to the 50 Shades bandwagon and now have a Passion section in the magazine. In this months EL (December issue) they have an interview with EL James and she cant see the connection between her trilogy and abuse Hmm

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Darkesteyes · 10/11/2012 00:31

And in the same issue Holly Willoughby insists that every woman should read 50 shades.

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Darkesteyes · 10/11/2012 00:41
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80sMum · 10/11/2012 00:50

A friend lent me her copy of 50 shades a couple of months ago. I read the first few pages, but it didn't inspire me to continue. I thought it was written in a rather wooden, slightly childish style and I couldn't see myself being interested in reading it.

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Abitwobblynow · 10/11/2012 11:59

I tried to read that trash and not a quiver, not a tingle.

So badly written. So unerotic. As a wonderfully MNetter said, 'Christian Grey is a nutjob and she is a moron'.

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Oblomov · 10/11/2012 13:38

I can't understand why it increased your sex drive in the first place. The trilogy was truely naff and did nothing for my sex drive.

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cece · 10/11/2012 13:41

I found it creepy and stalkerish - not at all erotic.

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GobblersSparklyExplodingKnob · 10/11/2012 13:42

I couldn't read past the first few chapters, it was such astonishing drivel.

I know someone who writes for Black Lace Smile

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ledkr · 10/11/2012 13:46

Yeah when did we all start getting into bondage?
Aren't we oppressed enough?
Malificicence once said on here to sleep naked to improve libidos obviously that only works if you sleep with someone and not alone Grin
It works so when things are getting a bit slack here I disgard my pj s chilly but effective

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drizzlecake · 10/11/2012 15:42

Oh, I thought they'd stopped publishing Black Lace books so, good if they are still on the go because I'm planning to write out my favourite horny fantasy and make a packet when it becomes a bonkbuster

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Eastpoint · 10/11/2012 16:01

The Passion section in Easy Living really seemed silly to me. Three pieces by men on the best sex they've ever had, etc. I used to like it as a magazine but I won't buy it again.

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