My exP and I have been off and on for 5years, since ds was born. I have two other children, 9and11 from a previous relationship. Ex and I were very very much over and done with afaIwc until this august when we had a family holiday together with the kids.
It's ds's birthday this weekend, ex's family live in a nearby seaside town, and ex asked to take ds there last weekend to see them.
They had a birthday party for ds-a 'practice' one, complete with party food, guests, LOADS of presents and a cake. I'm really pissed off that they had a party without inviting his mum or siblings. To me, that's just SHIT. Older kids were quite upset when ds came back with arms full of gifts and a tub with left over birthday cake and cup cakes in. I don't allow a lot of sugar for my kids, I am a fitness instructor and .healthy diets are very important in our household, which has been a bit of a battle ground with ex's family in the past. I feel like my ds is getting spoiled-two parties, two cakes, two special days a month before xmas, two days of gifts.
And I'm really really annoyed that when it IS his birthday, ex will be invited along to join in the celebrations with us, so he also gets two days of celebration. Part of me is tempted to say 'MY family are having a party for him this weekend' and leaving HIM out. I've spoken to dsis and mum, who both say I should be the better person and not stoop to his tricks, but honestly I've BEEN the bigger, better person for 5 years now and it just ends up the same way, with this us and them attitude. Every time I do something with the kids, I invite ex along, whether we are 'together' at the time or not, but this is all I get in return. I'm pissed off.
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PerfectStranger74 · 07/11/2012 16:14
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