Ive been separated a year. Halfway through a divorce.
Ex was a bit controlling, EA & a drinker. I had a tough time leaving but am much happier.
Anyway, I'm seeing a man who is lovely but lives over 100 miles away. I like this in some respects as it means I can't rush headlong into anything.
He's coming to visit soon and I've arranged childcare with ex, swapping a few days around so he has them one extra day mid week so the children won't be meeting new man.
Ex is aware of new man and isn't overly happy but is being ok.
My mum however is extremely disapproving of the whole thing.
I shouldn't be dating at all. She's worried new man is taking advantage of me while I'm vulnerable...
She thinks my ex is "giving me enough rope to hang myself" which I don't understand.
She's being so negative and judgemental. Usually we are pretty close, but I don't feel able to discuss this with her and she obviously feels the same as she only mentions it in texts.
So, is it too soon for me to be dating?
What COULD my ex possibly do? I think she's worried about him going for more access but not only is that impossible due to his work, but I think we're both quite happy with our arrangements..
Am I being naive?
I'm in a right tizz over his visit now as she's made me really anxious with her worrying!
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When is too soon? Dating after separation
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NOWImWorried · 06/11/2012 11:07
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