I used to post on the online dating threads back in the early days of their existence. I ended up arranging a date and posting on there full of nerves saying maybe I shouldn't go - you all said "go go go!!!" and so I went. 5 months later we're still together
But all is not well and my spidey senses are telling me we're fading out . We used to be all over each other, couldn't keep our hands off each other, all talks about the future and how much we felt for each other. Well, 99% of that has just stopped really. We don't tend to talk about our feelings for each other anymore, talks of the future have grinded to a halt (yesterday I asked him jokingly if he was coming to my graduation in 2014, he hesitated and then said "err yeah, if you want me to". Thanks for the enthusiasm there mate!
Biggest tell-tale sign is the sex and general bed time. Twice last week he said he was too tired to carry on after starting and this week he's stayed over my house 3 times and not come anywhere near me (considering we generally have sex 2/3 times a night when he stays over, this is a huge change!). First night I put it down to tiredness (he'd had a busy day and I'd been on a night shift the night before). Second night I was a bit but last night I felt a bit upset, he didn't even kiss me and for the first time ever, didn't hug me in bed but turned away from me and went to sleep.
He's not said anything that suggests he's wanting to end it, it's all in the way he's acting. Texts if anything have grown 'nicer' which makes me think he's trying too hard to hide his true feelings. The cynic in me is saying he's only wanting to stay together as we've booked a few things for the rest of this year that he doesn't want to miss out on/feels guilty me missing out on.
What do you reckon? am I overthinking it or do we have problems?
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Well - this is dying off pretty rapidly isn't it? :-(
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MilkNCereal · 06/11/2012 09:13
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