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Boyfriend drags his heels with EVERYTHING - what is reasonable to expect this stuff??

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ConversationConstipation Sun 04-Nov-12 14:55:04

For months now my boyfriend has been talking about:

a) booking a holiday (details in AIBU!)
b) Me meeting his parents
c) Me meeting his kids
d) living together

Then he just goes quiet on it all and of course, if I bring it up - I'm being a bunny boiler.

Just out of curiosity - how long is reasonable to wait before expecting this stuff?(not so much the holiday, but the other stuff) I'm starting to think he's just messing me about!

DontmindifIdo Sun 04-Nov-12 15:02:24

None of these things have a right and wrong answer that's right/wrong for everyone. His timeframes obviously don't work for you. This is going to get harder not easier as your relationship develops. If he's a staller/faffer and you're a doer then it's not going to work, or you will spend 40+ years being annoyed at him.

Life is too short.

AKissIsNotAContract Sun 04-Nov-12 15:05:22

How long have you been together? Do you have children too?

DameFanny Sun 04-Nov-12 15:07:29

If he's accusing you of being a bunny boiler you might as well finish it now - sounds like he wants to keep you on the back foot and doesn't respect you. Sorry.

SamSmalaidh Sun 04-Nov-12 15:13:42

If you've been together for a year+, I'd start wondering why you aren't meeting his family. Living together is a different matter - some people move in together quickly, some wait years.

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