I've started a relationship after years and years of being on my own bringing up my kids - who have all basically left home now. He is a lovely, lovely man kind, considerate and gentle - he's encouraged my to let my hair down and not worry what other people might think - which I throughly enjoy!
But and its a big 'but' I feel that I can't rely on him. He is very lovey dovey, calls me pet names which I like but I can't do the same to him especially if he is standing there in front of me (silly isn't it!). He wants to help round the house 'but' I can do it myself! I think he needs to be needed and I do but in an emotional way and not in a practical way. I think he has been out with very needy women and this sort of confirms to me that I don't want to be seen that way (as their relationships didn't work out). The father of my children let me down nearly all the time so the only one I could rely on was myself!
I think this relationship could go all the way - we have talked moving in together and marriage but we need to sort this out. And its a 'we' thing not a 'he should do' or a 'I should do'. Any advice would be welcomed, are our expections too high of each other?
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Olderkidsaremine · 01/11/2012 10:20
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