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best online dating sites?

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VeryProbablyStupid Wed 31-Oct-12 18:32:25

Just a quick one. I am on POF, which is a pile of shit. Mostly just horny teenagers and questionable men. It has a rep as a hook up site for sex etc, and this isn't what I want.

So, just quickly, can you suggest some better, more adult (not in a porno way!) relationship type sites that are free?


ScarahStratton Wed 31-Oct-12 18:47:51

Sadly not. I've tried most of the decent, pay for ones and they are just as full of weirdos as the free ones. There are nice men on them, there has to be as I have friends who have met lovely men on them. But they're definitely in a massive minority, and in hiding.

VeryProbablyStupid Wed 31-Oct-12 18:48:47

Lol yeah Im in mass trawling mode.

You would think as I fancy old fat hairy men it would be easy pickings. Not so much!

badgeroncaffeine Wed 31-Oct-12 18:52:00

They are all populated mainly by people (male and female) who are there for a reason (often many reasons!).
There are some decent people, but the fickle nature of dating sites mean that most people never notice or contact them.

VeryProbablyStupid Wed 31-Oct-12 18:55:44

Hmmm, so am I barking up the wrong tree entirely?

Numberlock Wed 31-Oct-12 18:59:25

Same shit different wrapping whether its a free or paying site.

I've given up on Internet dating. Don't know what the alternative is at the moment but happily single so not too bothered for now.

badgeroncaffeine Wed 31-Oct-12 19:00:42

Probably...why not just chat to people for a while until you get a better idea about them. I've never had a problem..and always get what I want, which has been a relationship in the past, and sometimes something more casual.

ruddynorah Wed 31-Oct-12 19:03:31

I've met good ones on okCupid.

badgeroncaffeine Wed 31-Oct-12 19:06:02

The problem with OKCupid is that there's so few people on there. Fine if you're in a major city, waste of time if not. Unless you want a purely "cyber relationship"!.

VeryProbablyStupid Wed 31-Oct-12 19:09:11

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badgeroncaffeine Wed 31-Oct-12 19:10:43

That's why you don't talk for ages, just for long enough that the undesirables move on.

ruddynorah Wed 31-Oct-12 19:10:57

Ah I am in a major city.

ruddynorah Wed 31-Oct-12 19:12:38

And yes I don't chat for ages. If I click with someone after maybe two or three days messaging I want to meet them. It's as if I met them in a bar and swapped numbers, a few texts then do you fancy meeting for a drink.

shopafrolic Wed 31-Oct-12 19:15:14

I met my husband on Dating Direct.....

badgeroncaffeine Wed 31-Oct-12 19:16:53

Same here...I don't actually mind if they want something casual, as I'm sometimes fine with that. I just find that after 2 or 3 days, you normally find out one way or the other.

VeryProbablyStupid Wed 31-Oct-12 19:17:00

Ooh ok keep them coming. Im signing up to OK cupid now. Anything has to be better than POF. Although I have befriended a yound lad who is currently sending girls dirty come ons to see if anyone actually falls for that shit!

badgeroncaffeine Wed 31-Oct-12 19:19:02

You'll find OKCupid is too much like hard work.

VeryProbablyStupid Wed 31-Oct-12 19:20:40

oh really? how come?

badgeroncaffeine Wed 31-Oct-12 19:26:32

Answer a few dozen or hundred questions and it will match you with someone in Ohio or something lol Not enough people there.

VeryProbablyStupid Wed 31-Oct-12 19:27:59

Hahaha yeah it just started asking me questions. Cant I browse?

badgeroncaffeine Wed 31-Oct-12 19:30:49

I think you can as soon as your profile's accepted.

izzyizin Wed 31-Oct-12 19:32:12

Ask the old hands experienced on the long running online dating thread here:

VeryProbablyStupid Wed 31-Oct-12 19:34:21

Thanks smile

badgeroncaffeine Wed 31-Oct-12 19:34:52

Or maybe not, you'll become too cynical to ever succeed then.

ArthurFowlersHauntedAllotment Wed 31-Oct-12 19:45:50

I genuinely know people who have got married to people they met on eHarmony and GSM. Several people, though all in London.

They all endured months of crap dates first though..

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