I have been in a relationship for 4 years, in that time he moved in with me and have 2yo. My partner does not work, he contributes sometimes 400 pm, sometimes nothing (he has an income of £800 from investment).
I work ft in well paid job however pay all bills, food, childcare (nursery 3 days pw) and anything else (days out etc). I feel taken advantage of and now have no respect for partner. I want him 2 leave but he won't. How can I get out of this awful situation, I feel like he is sucking the life out of me!
Change the locks. Y cannot control the relationship he has with his daughter, and if he has any intention of being a good father he will be one. If he isn't a good father because you changed the locks, he had no intention of being a good father.
Look at it this way .... My ex used to hit me. Should that affect the relationship I have with my children?
I think maybe people are being a bit hysterical here. Just imagine if it were the other way round and the post were coming from a man! So he's not a full time SAHP but he looks after DS 2 days a week and does nursery pick ups on 2. And he sometimes contributes some money - what does he do with the rest of his investment money? I really do get why you're frustrated OP, and I wouldn't be happy in the same situation. Have you spoken to him about it? Do you think he would/ could change? And even if he did would you still want to carry on in the relationship? Maybe he needs to know how you're feeling?
I agree with others, he either leaves or he's forced. If he refuses to leave, he is giving you the option of forcing him out or just putting up with him. He obviously banks on the latter.
He will be a good/bad father regardless of his relationship with you. And really, whilst it is ideal to end it amicably, he's not allowing you that option is he? He refused to leave on amicable terms, that was his decision, he is behaving volatile already by refusing to leave YOUR home. The first stone has been thrown by him, so to speak.
If he's not on the tenancy you can just put him out, and if he refuses to go you can get the police to remove him if necessary. If he has no where to go it isn't your problem, but don' t worry about it too much; a lazy cocklodger like this will soon find some desperate single mum to leech off.