So dp has this habit and it is really starting to piss me off. He makes comments to the dc that I feel are sly and a bit of a dig at me. For example toddler dd has just walked into kitchen and said "I'm hungry" he said "me too, sweetheart but here isn't anything" cue dd crying and pointing to the bananas in the overfilled fruit bowl.
There is food in, I just haven't bought as much crap as usual as we are trying to budget.
Dd had eaten breakfast she just wanted a banana so why have to make a comment?
At weekends we take it in turns to sleep in, when it's his turn he gets left alone when it's mine you hear him downstairs sighing loudly to himself, or he will constantly come upstairs and if I ask to be left alone he gets all offended that I don't want him cuddling me while the dc kill each other downstairs. Or he just let's the dc come and bug me.
It sounds silly wrote down and when I try to explain to him why it bugs me it sounds ridiculous and then he ends up telling me I'm crazy and he wasn't making any comments.
He's just done it again while I was writing this by saying to himself I hate Tuesday,Wednesday, Thursday 
. No explanation as to why but I think it is because it's payday Friday and we are on a tight budget until then.
He also makes me feel like I am walking on eggshells when the dc misbehave, I get a horrible churning feeling because it seems to stress him out a lot or he will have a go at me because of housework. He does loads but so do I, however he gets annoyed if I want to do it at my own pace or when we argue he will say vile things about me being lazy. All he wants to do is housework though he never wants to do anything with the dc or me. We went for a walk yesterday and he announced he would stay at home and clean. Then made me feel stupid for asking him to come.
I know this is disjointed and long, I'm rushing it in case he comes up but I could do with some advice.
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Dp is driving me mad but I don't know why
TheLateMrPamuk · 30/10/2012 09:38
It is not nice living with someone who 'stresses out' about DCs misbehaving or thinks they are entitled to have a go at you about housework or saying 'vile things' about anything else. Sarcastic/silly comments about lack of food or hating days of the week because there's no money left are annoying. Sighing and sulking is childish. Calling you crazy for complaining is the act of someone trying to undermine your confidence. And you're worried in case he reads what you're writing? 
This is the person that is supposed to love and respect you above all others. If you don't feel loved and respected - if you feel 'on eggshells', stupid or nervous - then something is badly wrong. Stand up to him and don't let him bully you or make you feel inadequate. Face him down.
He sounds awful.
Have you read any of the threads about emotional abuse? If you have, do you recognise any of the behaviours in him?
It's not stupid to want to have a family walk. It's not unfair not to want to be disturbed when you're supposedly having a lie-in .
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