The title says it all really . oh appears like the ideal partner to most people - always coming across as very polite, reasonable etc, good at throwing "jokey comments" which imply that I'm not. We are in the process of moving (for my job) and I'm meeting new people. They ask about oh, ask why I don't seem to miss him when away etc and I don't know what to say. I also don't know what I will say if (when?) we do split up. I don't want to say that he is an abusive git - it seems unfair to him (I don't think that he means to be - I think that it is just that he was brought up to think of women in certain roles and I am unable to fit that role and so he is unable to cope with this). I really struggle with all the "you must be looking forward to seeing oh" type comments and want to somehow give the impression that all may not be well without saying anything much IYSWIM. Should I just try to pretend that all is rosy until something changes? I'm partly worried that he will meet someone from my work and "say something" I guess.
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what do you tell people in RL if you are in an EA or VA relationship and/or thinking of separating?
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desparatelyseekingsomething · 29/10/2012 19:07
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