Advanced search

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide, which can point you to expert advice and support.

Is this too creepy to tolerate? [WARNING: extreme subject matter]

(448 Posts)
Halfway Mon 29-Oct-12 08:39:27

I'm posting on behalf of my best friend (for real, she is sat beside me but is not familiar with Mumsnet).

She has recently begun dating a new guy (for a couple months), whom she has known for over ten years as a friend, albeit mostly long distance as he works and lives long periods abroad. He is also Chinese (only relevant because I am genuinely unsure as to whether there are any cultural differences that might make his confession less bizarre than it sounds to me).

He has confessed to her that his ultimate fantasy about intimacy involves eating someone (albeit only ever with their consent).

He says he has never actually eaten part of anyone, but fantasizes about finding someone who would consent to giving him small pieces of flesh (that would not overly harm the person), that he could cook and perhaps even share with them.

Now, she tells me all this in a very relaxed (almost flippant) way, and I can't help but sit here and inwardly think !!!!!!!!!!!!!!.

She tells me that in her opinion it is no worse than people who fantasize about whipping/strangling each other, and that although it is freaky, the important thing is that he has no wish to do anything without someone else's wholehearted participation.

So now I am uncertain as to whether I really am being a bit intolerant (and judgemental), or if there is something about this particular fantasy that is just too dangerous (and creepy) to tolerate.

Mumsnet jury opinions needed! Many thanks.

HappyJustToBe Mon 29-Oct-12 08:41:45

Would be too much for me

EleanorBloodBathsket Mon 29-Oct-12 08:41:45

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

DoingTheBestICan Mon 29-Oct-12 08:42:34

Creepy,if she sees him taking a knife and fork to bed then tell her to run for the hills.

ZiggyPlayedGuitar Mon 29-Oct-12 08:42:35

Urgh, I'd be very creeped out! Each to their own and all that but I would be scared how easily it could lead to killing and eating someone.

Bork bork bork!!!

5ThingsUnderTheBed Mon 29-Oct-12 08:42:49

If a fairly new boyfriend told me that I'd run for the hills!

OneOfMyTurnsComingOn Mon 29-Oct-12 08:42:52

I think I would be afraid. Very afraid.

dexter73 Mon 29-Oct-12 08:43:03

That is definitely creepy hmm

MadameCastafiore Mon 29-Oct-12 08:43:32

She needs to get rid and I'd let the police know for future reference when they find half eaten corpses.

IRCL Mon 29-Oct-12 08:43:49

I'd be out the door...

Too creepy for me!

slartybartfast Mon 29-Oct-12 08:43:53

perhaps he is infatuated with The Cook the thief his wife and her lover.

i dont think i would hang around.
are there are eccentricities?

slartybartfast Mon 29-Oct-12 08:44:35,_the_Thief,_His_Wife_%26_Her_Lover

susiedaisy Mon 29-Oct-12 08:44:42

Erm 'small pieces of flesh that wouldn't overly harm the person' what part of the body would that be from then??hmm

If this is indeed a genuine post then I would say dump the weirdo, it will not end well if she doesn't!

TheOneWithTheHair Mon 29-Oct-12 08:45:06

Sounds really bloody scary to me. I'd run a mile. Quite often people start with the milder end of what they like. What would it lead to and what if he wanted more? Also she would scar.

Just no!!! I'd be wondering about going to the police not whether I should be doing it!!


Gunznroses Mon 29-Oct-12 08:45:07

I suppose he need not worry about "wholehearted" consent, once he's eaten them hmm gulp!

bumblebeader Mon 29-Oct-12 08:46:28

Definitely creepy. I second the poster upthread who said contact the police!

xMumof3x Mon 29-Oct-12 08:46:49

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

LynetteScavo Mon 29-Oct-12 08:47:11

Um, yes far too creepyto tolerate.

But I guess if she just want to feed him a few scabs off her knees for now....

kinkyfuckery Mon 29-Oct-12 08:47:12

Erm, bit of a deal-breaker for me!

Halfway Mon 29-Oct-12 08:47:40

I have not actually met the guy yet myself, so can't judge whether he has any obvious eccentricities.

From what she tells me he has had multiple short-term failed relationships (which he puts down to his regular travelling). She's also had many failed short relationships due to self-admittedly picking out even minor flaws in people as dealbreakers. I've actually been advising her to be more tolerant (which I am now starting to regret!!!)

katiecubs Mon 29-Oct-12 08:48:12

sorry but that's horrific.

i would run a mile too if someone wanted to whip me/strangle me too but this is in a whole differant league.

Shakirasma Mon 29-Oct-12 08:49:06

How on earth can somebody see cannibalism as being on a par with bondage? Any attempt to realise such a fantasy will result in permenant damage and scarring at best, and at worst death.

Totally totally hideous. Run.

AKissIsNotAContract Mon 29-Oct-12 08:49:17

I think in British law this would be illegal with or without consent.

I like some kinky stuff but that would be too much for me.

TheOneWithTheHair Mon 29-Oct-12 08:49:46

Oh and I don't think it's a culture thing, I think it's a psycho thing!!

Gunznroses Mon 29-Oct-12 08:50:09

Seriously, there are a a few people in some parts of the world who still practice "cannibalism", could it be this is something he has witnessed or grown up with within his family and has been surpressing it in the U.K (im assuming he wasnt born here ?

This thread is not accepting new messages.