We have been married 4 months but together much longer. Don't have children.
I am no longer attracted to him.
Since getting together he has put on a lot if weight and drinks a lot and is lazy with exercise.
He is great in mist other ways and takes care of me, is kind and can be quite loving (not that I want to reciprocate at the moment)
I don't know what to do.
I am finding myself becoming attracted to other men and getting silly crushes.
I know it sounds ever so shallow, but i am sure it's just the way he has let himself go that has turned me off.
Last year he made a bit if an effort to get a bit healthier, but as soon as wedding was done he hasn't done any exercise and is always making excuses as to why he can't (weather etc)
His friends have noticed and comment on it (relativky tactfully), most are very into fitness and have all offered to help him get into shape, but he says he's not interested.
I think they all notice that I have lost interest in him sexually as the chemistry just isn't there anymore.
I have always had quite a high libido and used to get frustrated if we didn't have sex often, but now I am glad we don't as I don't think I could go through with it as without that attraction, I find it a complete turn off.
Is our relationship salvageable or are we doomed?
I dot want to hurt his feelings and tell him he has to lose weight or lose me, as that sounds rediculous and he will most likely end up resenting me, but I don't see how to carry on in what inevitably will lead to a loveless marriage.
Oh and to add, I was hoping we would start thinking about children next year, but can't even contemplate tht with him now
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Not attracted to DH - only recently married. What to do?
Beaverfeaver · 29/10/2012 02:40
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