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what could this mean? was i in the wrong?

(11 Posts)
skiesmylimit Sun 28-Oct-12 22:01:56

Basically, I have been with DH for 5 years. Over the past 5 years I have found many things (and forgiven)
such as texting (flirty/way you shouldn't kind of way),
lying about many things (girls numbers saved under lads names)
Porn (girl on girl) which he hid when he moved into MY house-i am against porn. Quite a lot.
Dating site, advertising himself as single and looking for fun. (I was 7 months pregnant)
More porn on phone (he knows how against I am and agreed that he wouldn't to respect me)

I have just started talking to him, as I was on his phone (internet-better phone) and on his bookmarks was a link to more porn. So I calmly asked him if he was looking at porn again. To which he flipped.I said I saw a link,he went mad. I then said look I'm not starting an argument I just want to talk.

Resulted in him shouting at me and taking pillows to sleep on sofa.


AKissIsNotAContract Sun 28-Oct-12 22:05:16

If you continue to forgive him for his behaviour, he will continue to behave like that. You have 2 choices, carry on accepting it or break up with him.

clam Sun 28-Oct-12 23:28:56

Exactly - what akiss said. Why on earth would he have stopped looking at porn? You've forgiven him for everything else, which he has taken to mean a green light to carry on.
So now he's deflecting the issue, by flouncing off to the sofa and shouting at you in such a way as to make you reluctant to pursue the matter any further.

He's got this sewn up, hasn't he?

izzyizin Sun 28-Oct-12 23:47:03

He's made his position crystal clear - porn and the prospect of being able to get it on with ow are more important to him than you are.

I would suggest you schedule a trip to a gum clinic as he won't have passed up any opportunity to play away.

HappyHalloweenMotherFucker Sun 28-Oct-12 23:58:23

uggh, why are you with this teenage fuck-up?

is he a man or a cock-driven, disrespectful twat ?

izzyizin Mon 29-Oct-12 00:03:02

Mmm... there's a poser for you, OP.

Is his name Kevin? Watch out for zits around his cock.

HappyHalloweenMotherFucker Mon 29-Oct-12 00:06:05

he's a cast member of the The Imbetweeners ?

CogitoEerilySpooky Mon 29-Oct-12 06:32:05

If you're in the wrong it's because you should have kicked this guy to the kerb about 4.5 years ago.

stuffitunderthebed Mon 29-Oct-12 06:33:12

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ThatsNice Mon 29-Oct-12 06:38:09

You are still with this guy..why? After all those things you've listed, he clearly has no respect for you. You might as well ask Santa for a new man for Christmas. You're more likely to have him listen to you than this waste of space sleeping on your sofa! sad

OpheliaPayneAgain Mon 29-Oct-12 06:46:32

Porn really isn't the issue here is it? Whether you like or approve of porn or not, what he does in that respect is none of your business. It's your lack of self respect and willing to put up with anything that is your problem. The porn is very inconsequential when compared to dating sites and inappropriate text messages.

Move him right out of your house, because you won't ever trust him.

BTW were you snooping on his phone or did you ask to use it? Because if you were snooping, then you don't trust him. No trust, no relationship.

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