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DH left, feel upset for feeling OK

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whyisthepathsounclear Sun 28-Oct-12 21:43:37

If you get what I mean?

I have been up and down, but I have lasted ALL day today without having a mini breakdown and sobbing into one of his tee shirts and now I feel weird about feeling OK.
I can't possibly be coming to terms with it already? It has only been a week!
Did anybody else go through this? What comes next?
I have never felt so many emotions in such a short space of time.

HopeThisIsRight Sun 28-Oct-12 22:56:39

I kicked DH out a week ago and I too have felt guilty about not feeling guilty (if you know what I mean!!) had the BIG talk today but I'm still not feeling guilty and he's still out! One day at a time .... If the relationship is worth it then you two will work it out - if not then its onwards and upwards

ErikNorseman Mon 29-Oct-12 05:27:44

It comes and goes! You will have bad days and good days for a fair while to come. Your feelings at this point are not definitive, but it's a good sign - maybe it was the right decision?

CogitoEerilySpooky Mon 29-Oct-12 06:23:09

What you're feeling is normal. You're cycling through ups and downs and currently you're in an 'up' phase. Make the most of this to address practical matters and take a few steps forward because, at any time and without warning, you could find yourself feeling down again. I agree with the PP that, at some level, you either feel relief that he's gone or that it was the right decision for some reason.

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