I really need to rant. (Some of you may remember this saga) PILs have banned me from their house (after a few visits they decided i wasn't a nice person because i didn't eat battery eggs, i 'insulted' their xmas tree and didn't agree on their choice of carpet for OUR house), this is not unusual apparently as they have banned everyone other than DP too.
DP recognises their madness but as they are isolated and clearly have MH issues he remains in contact - always in the hope they will come round. I am secretly relieved that i don't have to deal with them, but i do feel so very sad for DP who is heart broken.
Anyway, we recently had a baby which DP hoped would soften them and heal the rift. PILs started going immediately overboard and without any consultation bought everything possible for the baby (cots, prams, clothes etc). Still not acknowledging me. I decided for DPs sake to extend the olive branch and sent a letter thanking them for the stuff and offering that when the baby was born to bring it for a visit. MIL responded quite chattily and said they would be in touch about a visit. They never mentioned it again.
So DP this week decided to bring it up again as he is very upset they have never seen their only gc. He spoke to his mum on Thurs and asked if we could pop by on Sunday (today). She said she would 'talk to' FIL (he is the instigator in all this) and get back to DP. She didn't till this morning and sent an email saying no that they have decided to sort the loft instead. Fair enough if she had said what about x and offered an alternative. But i think it is clear they have no intention of ever see DS.
However, MIL continues to send me chatty emails and posting boxes of crap from car boot sales every week for DS. They also send cards to DS from 'GP's' saying they love him.
I am so angry with them. DP is heartbroken. He is putting a brave face on saying 'well they do need to clear out the loft so i should have known that and it was wrong of me to ask them'. It makes me want to punch something weep.
I have no problem with the no contact with me and DS, but i think the cards and gifts will confuse him when he is older. They will just be strangers writing that they love him.
So WIBU to reply to MILs next email that we are disappointed they don't want to see DS and this level of contact is too confusing for all of us? I know i would and i should leave it to DP, but I just want to protect DP and DS from their insanity.
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They are clearing the loft!!
Spuddybean · 28/10/2012 10:53
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