Also - do you find the drug taking problematic? I've never been around anyone whose taken drugs so I don't want to speak out of turn, but that seems like a lot. Perhaps if he didn't, he could play an hour or so and then do something with you? Or you could agree that he can smoke 2 nights a week, and spend 5 watching TV/talking/generally being together?
There must be something he likes to do other than smoke and play Star Wars. If not, it is probably approaching addictive. My OH loves games, especially RPGs, but doesn't play anywhere near that much and he will always include me even if I die all the time. The game isn't that big anyway. I finished it comprehensively within a few months of release, and I only played once a week or so, so he must be doing the same missions over and over.
My OH is a gamer too. He builds computers, plays all the games, has a state of the art computer. He can discuss any game with anyone, and has armies of friends who game. They used to have parties where they'd take their desktops to each others houses and game for nights on end.
But he didn't lose his life in it, and he plays a few times a week. Nothing like your DH. Lord of the Rings, Star Wars, WoW, EVE - they are all fantastic, but in moderation. I play, sometimes, and being a gamer myself I get caught up in it too - especially new expansions - but I couldn't play every night endlessly. That's too much time invested into a world that isn't real.
Would he see an addiction counsellor, or agree to cut down?
Mmmm, how can this not be a problem to you? Seriously, do you do stuff as a family, or/and as a couple. This type of behaviour would set my alarm bells off. Fwiw, my DH used to spend hours on the computer playing games, it was his way of escaping the reality that we no longer had anything in common. He is now exDH.
He should get of the box and nurture your marriage.
Hi there, when I met DP he was constantly on Star Wars KOTAR (the old one but I assume you already knew that) but made loads of time for us now a few years down the line, it's Champions Online now and there's not so much time for us.
The only thing I can think to say to you is what I try to do with him and that's talk to him as much as you can and tell him exactly what you feel, tbh I don't think it's the best advice as it never really works for me but I do feel your pain with this.
DP used to be the most loving, snuggly person you could meet now the same as you I am over here on my laptop and he is on the other side of the room with his.
Perfectly happy when he is not playing his games though (which is more often than not atm tbh).
DP is ^exactly* the same, it sort of annoys me as well as most people who see him wont realise this is a problem as they don't see him constantly on it so I feel like a moan.
I also get the I don't see what the problem is routine and that the more I nag about it the less he wants to come off it. Tbh now I am not much better as I have learnt to live with it by practically living on here.
I love DP very much and he's great in practically every other day if I didn't this would probably make me want to leave him, I assume you are in the same position?
Perhaps do the same to him for a while when he isn't on his computer? Immerse yourself in something on the laptop and ignore. I do this sometimes and it definitely gets his attention and he takes me a bit more seriously when it comes to discussing it for a while.