I am eight years into this relationship and we have been married 5 years. When we met we were both divorced but there was still a lot of bitterness from my husbands ex wife and that seemed to take up so much of our time at the beginning so life just kind of passed us by while we were untangling an access mess,(just some back story) His ex wife maintains that he had affairs etc throughout relationship and he has told me that he went to a strip club, had a private (and very intimate) dance and that he took her out after so i know he is not completely innocent although i didnt know this at the time.
Recently i have had reason to doubt my husband (inappropriate friendship with colleague), My senses feel heightened now. When i first found out about his colleague he said that nothing had happened, she was mad etc and that he had never cheated on me but that he was sorry for bringing this to my door. When i was still stinging from this a few months later and was feeling insecure he started to get angry and tell me to get over it etc as nothing had happened and i was making him miserable.
He has now been going away with work much more often and staying away for longer periods of time. (possibly because of my insecurities driving him mad)
He got a friend request from colleague which he showed me and then told me he had just refused it and had blocked her. I asked him to show me and he hadnt blocked her. I didnt say anything as i thought it was probably an oversight. However there were other blocked women on there and when i asked why they were blocked he just said 'no reason'!!
He has been away for a week now and i have been thinking about our relationship and realised that i actually know nothing about him prior to our relationship. For example, he said a few days ago about being 18 and living in a different part of the country so i asked how that had come about and he wouldnt tell me. So i left it. This happens about a lot of things. If i ask something and he doesnt want to answer, he just doesnt answer and changes the subject. I feel like im going mad and i know that none of this makes sense. I spent the first few days missing him but am now dreading his return tomorrow.
Am i mad?
I am prepared to be told i am a lunatic and that i am making something out of nothing. I just really dont know anymore.
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sexlessbint · 26/10/2012 02:06
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