I've posted about my hot man before (he's the one who gets hit on constantly). Bothers me less now.
So - we've been seeing each other just less than a year, he is seriously lovely and we are really loved up.
But - and why is love so blind that I didn't run a mile initially - he has two ex-wives. And three children (two with the first). EW1 seems fine - they got married young, and they share their DC 50/50. EW2 - they split 2.5 years ago. I had nothing, and I repeat nothing, to do with their break up. She is still very, very upset and emotional about their break up; constant emails/texts/phone calls. She makes contact with their DD very, very difficult.
I have 2 DCs myself. I don't live with my DP - we decided early on to take this very slowly given the 5 DCs we have between us...
Recently EW2 has gotten worse (final stages of divorce) and it has really affected DP - which I completely understand. I have tried to be supportive and loving, and I never ever bitch about her or do anything other than be there for him when she cancels an arrangement.
BUT - and here's the rub; I can't really see where this is all going at the moment. I love him. He is a fantastic father and a really great other half to me. But there's no way on earth we can move forward in our relationship, i.e. move in together or anything else, while things are this crazy still. I can't expose my DCs to the constant battles which he has to have. In fact, we live in the present either, for example, we can't ever even arrange a weekend together because he is never quite sure if EW2 is going to go off on one and then decide that DD needs to see him (which happens a lot).
It really pains me for him too, because he wants our relationship to work, but he never really has time for it, or if he does it is constantly thrown by an email from EW2 spouting off about something. The other night we had a rare night on our own and he basically didn't sleep because he'd received a really nasty email saying that he wasn't seeing his daughter ever again (which she always retracts from, but it is hard).
I have no idea what to do. You;re going to tell me that I shouldn't have gotten involved, right? I love him, and he constantly tells me that I am his rock.
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Oh FECK! The hot man, his two exes and me saga.
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IfImHonest · 23/10/2012 18:16
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