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My ex was adopted but had a lot of issues around this. After our first son was born he got in contact with his birth mother very abruptly and out of the blue, but she only wanted to exchange letters/phone calls whereas he wanted a full-on relationship and it all got a bit messy. He behaved very badly and she ended up warning him off and to stay away from her family.
We don't have any contact with ex due to his violent and unstable behaviour. He has been gone over two years now with no contact with the children. My elder son has just started secondary school and has recently become curious about his father's birth family. He wants to make contact with them but I'm not at all sure about this or how to deal with it. I do have an address for ex's birth mother and I know that she knows about my sons, but what should we do here? Would it be worth sending a card to establish contact and see what happens? Or would it be worse for ds if, as I suspect, she doesn't really want to know?
I am in an absolute quandary here about what to do and would appreciate any advice at all. Thanks.
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Difficult situation re ds and exdp - adoption issues
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GeordieinExile · 23/10/2012 09:07
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