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Domestic abuse - from my brother

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Imogencodpiece · 22/10/2012 17:25

My brother has just screamed at me called me a bitch and a slag and poked his fingers in my face.

This is the first time he has ever touched me but he has been verbally abusive before and as children (admittedly a long while ago now) used to hit me all the time.

He has always had an anger problem and iv just had enough. I refuse to allow him to get away with it any more. Everyone just seems to ignore it and just carry on but he has gone over the line today and actually touched me.

He has always lived at home, never paid rent or bills.

His current campaign of anger is directed at me because i left my husband in february for another man. This means i am a slag and a whore apparently, despite it actually being non of his business that i left and why.

I am also 5 months pregnant with my new partner and very happy about this. its our first child for either of us and this should be an exciting time but its not.

i am living at home currently with my mum and brother as when i left my husband my intention was to take things slow with new fella and do lots of saving with the reduction in outgoings. baby was a surprise as i was on the pill but has turned out to be a welcome surprise. needless to say i am lookin for a place to be able to afford to move out again.

anyway babbling on, can i report this incident to police or will they see it as petty?

the argument started as he was telling me about how he wants to start a business like his mate (whom is living with his missus who claims everything on benefits and they don't declare they are living together) so my brother sees this as all profit.

i said well his(mates) business would be non-legit then as he would need to register himself as living somewhere pay VAT, insurance ect and that if he (my brother) wanted to start a business he would be best doing a qualification in business and maybe looking to up his maths/english level ect at which point he flipped and got right up in my face telling me not to judge him or his mates and then called me a stuck up bitch and poked his fingers in my face.

im sorry if this is all jumbled, im quite upset. :(

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KennethParcell · 22/10/2012 17:31

wow. he sounds a disturbed misogynist with a bizarre sense of entitlement over your life. He has no right to judge you, and he obviously has no right to verbally and physically abuse you. I would think about reporting it to the police. He will of course HATE you for it but you need to protect yourself and your baby. He lives at home as well? and always has done by the sounds of it.......... he said some nasty things and he sounds very selfish, his comments and outburst no doubt motivated by the realisation that your mother's home is not just his own private domain. He could probably control things well when it was him and your mother and now it's two women and himself his rein is less certain.

I have not been in your exact shoes but I am a single mother of two kids and my brother has said some strange things to me. I was instructed to forget it too. I made the mistake of running a decision past him recently and he said 'em, no, no'. like it was his decision or something?!