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Making a sex tape...have you ever?

(40 Posts)
numbers22 Sun 21-Oct-12 17:23:55

Ok, my bf has suggested a few times about filming us. I'm not totally against the idea but I wouldn't want it to be seen by anyone other than us. I totally trust him not to show it to anyone or upload it anywhere but what other precautions could I take?

Has anyone here any experience of making one and how to keep it safe or is it just a completely mad idea?

InSPsFanjoNoOneHearsYouScream Sun 21-Oct-12 17:26:14

I couldn't do it as I'd want to watch it then spend the entire time going "I look fat there" "didn't know i had freckles there" "the beds loud ain't it"

2cats2many Sun 21-Oct-12 17:26:43

Don't do it!! How are you going to stop him showing all and sundry if you split up? Think Tulisa, Paris Hilton, etc, etc...

BabblingWreckSimianBrain Sun 21-Oct-12 17:31:04

Absolutely not.
It's ok to trust him now but what if you split up? Everything about it makes me very nervous indeed. Has he filmed with girlfriends before? What is it about this that he finds appealing? Is it that having sex knowing the camera is on is a turn on for him? Or is it about watching again later...perhaps when you're not there?

If you have to do this, make sure he deletes it immediately. Better still use your own camera or phone or whatever to film with and delete it as soon as you've watched it.

Even the phrase 'sex tape' makes me want to vomit - it makes it sound like some sad celebrity publicity stunt. And most people who aren't porn 'stars' look ridiculous having sex...

Naghoul Sun 21-Oct-12 17:36:37

No never never never.

As a compromise I might possibly consider letting him watch himself in the mirror grin

tzella Sun 21-Oct-12 17:37:04

I wouldn't do it, for all the reasons above grin "God, look at my bum!!1" plus not ever being sure where the tape would end up plus it's yuk plus I actually have no particular desire to watch myself having sex.

Is this becoming a thing of his? Has he done it before? Does he have a file on his laptop full of vids of him and his ex's?

BadgersBottom Sun 21-Oct-12 17:38:14

Just don't. I used to work with a guy who did this and without his gf's knowledge was showing it to anyone who was prepared to look. I don't think she ever found out either which in a way was even more awful. So no - don't.

AKissIsNotAContract Sun 21-Oct-12 17:39:14

I did it when I was younger, it ended up online. Don't do it.

numbers22 Sun 21-Oct-12 17:54:42

BabblingWreckSimianBrain No idea if he's filmed others gfs before, just suppose it's a bit of fun.

If we do it it will be on my camera. Are there ways to lock access to things and password them? Think I need to be a bit more tech savvy before going ahead with anything.

AKissIsNotAContract Sun 21-Oct-12 17:56:17

Do you really want to watch your come-face repeatedly? What if you realise you look like a total fucking muppet during sex? No good can come of this.

tzella Sun 21-Oct-12 18:03:06

No idea if he's filmed others gfs before

Ask him. Talk about it.

50shadesofmeh Sun 21-Oct-12 18:24:56

I can't think of anything less sexy than myself having sex on film it would put me off for life.

Allofaflumble Sun 21-Oct-12 18:28:05

Can't believe you are even considering it. You must be out of your mind!!!!!!

tzella Sun 21-Oct-12 18:29:45

I'm 30-something and I appreciate that this might be something the kids are into and I just don't get it hmm

susiedaisy Sun 21-Oct-12 18:29:54

No I would never do it I would be too concerned with it falling into the wrong hands!

MrsWolowitz Sun 21-Oct-12 18:30:45

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

AntoinetteCosway Sun 21-Oct-12 18:31:36

We've filmed ourselves. It was quite a turn on but watching it back was utterly unsexy and horribly cringy! Honestly, I had no idea how stupid I people look when having sex. Anyway, we filmed it on a phone and promptly deleted it after viewing and agreeing it was not something we'd ever, ever want to watch again!

dequoisagitil Sun 21-Oct-12 18:31:57

How long have you been together?

scentednappyhag Sun 21-Oct-12 18:35:54

I made one with an ex and found it again a few months ago. Was quite nice looking back at how slim I was grin
DH and I take pictures quite regularly, much more flattering than a live action stream!
But yeah, I agree that privacy is a big factor and there has to be a huge amount of trust to do it.

CailinDana Sun 21-Oct-12 18:36:36

Yes, years ago. I am still traumatised by it. God I am fugly when I have sex. Poor DH grin.

Deleted it straight away after one cringey viewing.

Bunbaker Sun 21-Oct-12 18:42:56

Unless you feel you can absolutely trust your partner I wouldn't do it. It is far too easy with modern technology to replicate your antics online.
Facebook, You Tube, mobile phone, other social media etc.

Your partner only needs to remove the memory card and transfer the contents to any of the above. IMO it's too risky.

AmberLeaf Sun 21-Oct-12 18:48:15

Hell no!

Mintyy Sun 21-Oct-12 18:49:16


Seabright Sun 21-Oct-12 19:02:18

Noooo! You might trust him, but what if the tape/phone/gadget it's on gets stolen. No.

janelikesjam Sun 21-Oct-12 19:46:28

I would never do it. Anyway, its yr boyfriend's suggestion hmm, not yours. "I'm not totally against the idea" sounds actually quite ambivalent to me.

Agree that even if you "totally" trust someone (whatever that means) what if it got lost, stolen, got into the wrong hands' accidentally ...

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