Channeling - WTAF ? Is this an all new way of discovering twat-man?

[mcmooncup]

In my enjoyable quest to re-tune my twat-radar excuse to date a lot of men , I have come across a puzzling one.............what do you all think of this one ?

So, met a guy, he's 44, has 2 children and has a good relationship with them it seems, marriage broke down because his wife had an affair (she is still with him), he said he used to be working too hard and too long. He is good looking, well-dressed, has his own business, drives a Porsche

Sooooooo, to come to the point. He had told me he was into meditating, OK fine. But this progressed into telling me he does Channeling. I asked if he meant like Whoopi Goldberg in Ghost. Apparently it's not......I still don't really know what it is....but I know I don't get it.

To get to the point........is it possible for this man to not be a twat and still do channeling?

He's very polite, not too full on, thoughtful etc. But channeling? Am I being very unspiritual or do well-adjusted people do this?

[BessieMcBean]

Channeling is a natural form of communication between humans and angelic beings, nature spirits, non-physical entities or even animals and pets

Hmmmmmm.

[AKissIsNotAContract]

Has he explained what it is? I have a rough idea.

[mcmooncup]

He sort of did, saying it was an energy thing.

It didn't make much sense. I was stuck at the Whoopi Goldberg thing.

Oh, just remembered, he said he would be able to see my aura if he had a flower and a candle. W.H.A.T????

I was very drunk tired at this point and I think rabbit in headlights might be a suitable description of my reaction to this conversation.

[wannabedomesticgoddess]

I think its hard to say when I dont know what channeling is or what he is like in general.

But people have hobbies and interests and it depends whether they annoy/offend/baffle or impact you enough to become a problem iyswim.

I couldnt really see myself dating a devout christian for example, because something which means so much to them and means nothing to me would become a problem.

Sorry, Im rambling. I guess Im saying that you should try to find out more about channeling and his view on it before you decide its a no go.

[PrincessSymbian]

I guess this kind of depends how it effects him, such as if it gives him an attitude of I'm amazing and special because I can coommmunnicate with dead things or if it just came across in the same sort of manner as someone telling you they go to church.

[mcmooncup]

I know what you mean there exactly PrincessSymbian - and he doesn't come across as having a superior attitude at all, quite the opposite in fact, one of sharing, non-judgemental, understanding, kindness.

Which is why it doesn't make sense iykwim.

[wannabedomesticgoddess]

X post.

Ok, from what you say then this idea of channeling freaks you out enough for it to potentially become an issue...

Its a no go.

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

I'd be less worried about his beliefs and more worried about the live-in DW. Perhaps you'll find he's channelling Alan Clark..

[PrincessSymbian]

I think mcmoon meant the ex is with the person she was having an affair with.

[AKissIsNotAContract]

He still lives with his DW?

[mcmooncup]

You think he's married Cogito? Who? Why? What? When? Surely I can't have missed that one

[Bogeyface]

Weirdo alert!

[mcmooncup]

Oh, yes, the ex-w is still with the man she had an affair with........not with channeling man. He lives alone. By a river. "Rivers have good ions"

Oh god, I'm remembering more things he's said. I just want to take the piss.

[SoupDragon]

If you just want to take the piss, he clearly is not the man for you.

[wannabedomesticgoddess]

:o

Sorry but does he sing kumbya?

[FrustratedSycamoreBonks]

Oh the wife is still with the man she had an affair with. I read that as he was still with his wife

On the channeling note, I don't think the channeling indicates whether he is a twat or not. but I would be worried about the porche

[mcmooncup]

I know. Such a shame. Without this, he had potential for regularity.

I thought perhaps someone would come on here and tell me that I'm being unreasonable and that being spiritual is fine, I'm just being closed-minded..................................

[izzyizin]

A petrol head who's into channelling? I'm intrigued. I wonder what fumes he's inhaling

FWIW, IMO when we deliberately set time aside to commune with ourselves through meditation and the like, we're effectively 'channelling' and it is something that can occur spontaneously when we're preoccupied with some mundane or routine task that allows our minds to wander in other directions.

Some have a natural ability to see auras, others can be trained to see them. Some may doubt that auras exist but few haven't experienced the feeling of immediately liking or disliking a stranger because of their 'presence', the individual forcefield as it were that surrounds each of us.

[mcmooncup]

You seeeeeee, Domestic, that's the sort of thing I want to say...

He did tbf take the Whoopi Goldberg dig in good humour because I even did actions when I said it

[AKissIsNotAContract]

I'd probably give him the benefit of the doubt. However that probably tells you all you need to know, prior to DP I dated a string of weirdos.

[SoupDragon]

Being spiritual is fine and you are being close minded - but if you just want to laugh at him for this, that isn't fair is it? You could try talking to him about it and say that it is something you are unsure about/really don't understand.

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

I took the 'him' to be the date, not the OM ... Don't know what to suggest really. It's a bit 'shag/marry/throw off a cliff' isn't it? You'd probably be able to shag him and treat this New Age crap as an idiosyncrasy. But there would come a point where you'd say 'you don't really believe all this crap, do you?' and he'd flounce off and have to sit with some crystals to recover his Chi

What's the betting his exW ran off with a totally non-woo bricklayer or something? Would be great to interview her

[mcmooncup]

Funny how the porsche is a turn off.....literally got a sinking feeling when I first saw it.......I getcha!

[KinkyandGhoulishDorito]

Being spiritual is fine. But if you aren't, and are cynical, possibly not the best choice for you.

It's a shame, because if he is as you describe - sharing, caring, etc - he sounds nice.

[wannabedomesticgoddess]

Well maybe you are. His beliefs are is and hes entitled to have them and practice them aslong as they dont harm others.

But realistically, if you find it all a bit silly then it wouldnt work.