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Hoping/praying I'm not carrying DH's baby even though I desperately want a child

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ICZim Fri 19-Oct-12 01:04:14

Basically that is that - DH and I have been having a lot of marital problems - I've posted before. I moved out briefly but then he said we will go for counselling (something he's always said no to, as in no for 3 years). We went for 2 sessions then DH said he didn't need counselling. In my desire to feel connected again, I initiated sex, 2 days before the start of my fertile period (silly woman!) and now, nauseous as hell. I don't think I'm preggers - I even did a PG test this AM - DH didn't come inside me (he doesn't want babies - AT ALL! Reason why we did not have sex for at least 3 years) - And now I've written the post, I wonder what was the point of it? Only perhaps because this confirms me in my desire to leave definitely. I can't however wait for Sat: periods should come then.

DistressedMumHELP Fri 19-Oct-12 01:48:26

It sounds pretty much like your marriage really isn't working. I think if he isn't prepared to work with you then maybe its time to go your separate ways

bringupthebabies Fri 19-Oct-12 01:52:44

Go find someone better to have that baby with.... or go find a way of having a baby by yourself.

But whichever you end up doing, make sure you do go! Your 'D' H sounds a disaster area. Get rid quick and move on to happy life with a baby in prospect.

Helltotheno Fri 19-Oct-12 08:42:40

So you initiated sex two days before your fertile period to a man you're about to leave and have been having marital problems with for three years? Sorry to be cynical but I don't really understand that action unless your desperation for a child drove it?

DistressedMumHELP Fri 19-Oct-12 08:57:58

Like op said she wanted to feel "connected" to her dh again. Admittedly not the right way to go about it but understandable having been there myself. To me it sounds pretty much like the op has wanted the marriage to work but is now realising it isn't working at all.

ICZim Fri 19-Oct-12 14:02:58

Hi guys,

Thank you for your posts - Phew! Period came today. Helltotheno, I understand the cynicism but like Distressed wrote, desire for connection with my husband, desire to make the marriage work drove me rather than desperation for a baby.

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