I think I want to leave my husband but I am trapped here and don't know what to do. I work for him and years of criticism have made me think that I can do nothing right and would have no chance of getting a job anywhere else. He is not a really bad man just completely devoid of any emotion, he treats me like an employee and a shit one at that. I am not the best wife I will admit I do spend too much money and I do get very over emotional about silly things I suppose. But I think I am ready to leave him but don't know what to do for the best I am truly stuck with him I think as any job I look at won't pay me enough to live alone. I have asked him to go to marriage counselling but so far he has refused I am hoping he will be willing to have a talk tonight and I can get him to come along with me to see someone. I think it is such a shame we cannot get along now our kids have grown up surely this should be the best time of our lives now? I don't really have any friends to talk to he has been my only friend for so many years and deep down I will be lost without him but he is becoming quite impossible to live with and I don't want to end up hating him. He doesn't really do bad things he just says things I am saying are stupid and he says any of my friends I do make are horrible and he doesn't see why I am friends with them, it is hard to have a life outside of him as he is not interested in what I am doing and will make it perfectly plain that he doesn't want me to be doing it. He is a real hardworking man and I do respect him for that but he thinks that is all I need and it isn't, the older I get the more emotional I seem to get and I want something more from him, a bit of respect wouldn't go amiss I can tell you but I need to feel like I am not pulling teeth all the time when we are together. This all sounds so bad, we do have some really fun times but that is usually doing something he wants to do. If I suggest we do something he will say ok I will go but don't run away with the idea that I want to I am just going to shut you up. Sort of puts a damper on the whole day really, but he doesn't think there is anything wrong saying that. Am I trapped or is there a way out?
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