Sorry if this is TMI.
New boyfriend (first after leaving abusive marriage in Dec last year)....all going well. He is kind, wonderful, gentle, respectful etc etc etc.
I'd been nagging him to get an STI test for a while and we'd been religiously using condoms for the firs few weeks of our relationship. He hasn't had many sexual partners at all, but had had unprotected sex once.
One evening we were a bit drunk and had (really good!) unprotected sex. I got the morning after pill and we said we'd both go and get tested. I have since got tested and all is fine from my end. I have started taking the pill and we have continued to have sex without condoms.
There is of course a small risk he could have something and I want him to get tested to. He - without prompting from me - keeps saying he is going to do it, but keeps forgetting. It is starting to annoy me. I have told him so and he is apologetic and seems motivated to do something about it, but then doesn't. This has been going on for about 2 weeks.
I want to refuse to have sex again until he does it, but that seems childish - I shouldn't have to prompt him. We both take responsibility for being irresponsible (we are both more than old enough to know better) and I don't think I should have to give him a kick up the arse to do it.
What do you all think? I don't want to get cross again - he gets truly contrite and resolves to do it, but he is not doing it quick enough!
Other than this, he is almost perfect - I feel really lucky.
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I've been stupid and now am about to become childish
not16anymore · 17/10/2012 17:00
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