Red shoes, charming lesbians and pirates with taste...Dating Thread 24

[ChaoticismyLife]

It's the best I could come up with

As you were...

[watchoutforthatsnail]

yay!

western - ive sent you a fb message, or i think its you. it might not be... if not, email me on there and i will reply.

pie - you are divorced, its none of your worry if he doesnt like it ;)

[OhWesternWind]

Good title Watch!

[OhWesternWind]

Oops, sorry, Chaotic! That will teach me to read things properly . . .

[ChaoticismyLife]

[KirstyWirsty]

I decided to bin the number left on my windscreen ... Not enough effort made!! :-)

[hatesponge]

Agree - great title Chaotic :)

And Watch thanks re WHEN not if...although it does tend to feel like the latter much of the time. Hence continuing residence on the sofa!

[UnbridledPositivity]

Ooh, new thread. You might (or probably wouldn't!) remember me from several threads ago: I posted about the ethics of Facebook/Internet stalking potential dates. Really appreciated all your advice.

After umming and aahing for months now (!), I finally took the plunge and messaged the pof guy I've had my eye on.

He replied quite quickly and said I'd sent 'quite an impressive introductory message'. We work in the same (massive) place, so I suggested coffee, and he said that would be easier than replying to everything in my message. Seems quite positive (I think!), but I'm now a bit about the length of my message.

As I'm uncomfortable with putting a photo on pof and managed to find out lots about him, I said I'd send him the link to my profile on a professional networking site which has a photo of me on it. Is that stupid?

He wants to meet tomorrow! But I don't have time, so is it ok to suggest a range of other possible times? I think I'm actually going to meet him, if my photo doesn't put him off. It'll be my first date in 9 years...! I already know I shouldn't get my hopes up, but what else do I need to know?

DD's dad pisses me off every day, and we've been separated for ages, but this makes it seem really final, and I'm not sure how to deal with that. I'd still prefer to make things work with him, but 1) he's made it clear he's not interested in even 5 mins of doorstep conversation, 2) he's an arse, 3) I'm happier without him, 4) he's not the same person he was when we met, 5) we just don't work together anymore, and 6) he was a frequenter of adultwork. But this feels weird.

My situation: 27, one DD aged 3. Been living on our own for 2 years.

[Yogagirl17]

Ooh, I go out for a few hours and look what happens!

I had a "casual" conversation with DCs over the summer about dating (I was seeing mr60 at the time but never mentioned him specifically, just kept it general). They thought it was quite funny but said they were fine with it, then DS decided it would be cool if I went out with Tony Hawk (skateboarder, very hot but i think he's been married like 4 times already).

A few days later, XH says, "So, the kids said you were talking to them about dating....?" looking at me expectantly as if I'm going to offer him some interesting information. I just shrugged and said yes we were.

Hi Unbridled. My DC's dad still pisses me off regularly as well although I can't even imagine wanting to get back with him. If you're happier without him and he pisses you off so much why would you want to make things work with him? (Also, what's adultwork?)

[Yogagirl17]

BTW - quick question for FBers - do you list your relationship status (ie "single") on FB? Just curious.

[ChaoticismyLife]

Unbridled it's fine to offer a range of other dates. What else do you need to know? Relax, be yourself, wear something that is comfortable and you feel good in. A lunchtime/coffee date would be good. Oh, and forget the ex, I'm happier without him,, keep this in mind.

[ChaoticismyLife]

Yoga @ Tony Hawk. I have my relationship status set to single but you'd have to click on the 'about' button to see it.

[watchoutforthatsnail]

i have it hidden yoga. i dont feel the need to declare myself as anything.
HAHAHA,who am i trying to kid, but it is hidden.

[UnbridledPositivity]

Thanks Chaotic .

Yoga , I just wish we could be a straightforward family. If you don't already know what adultwork is, you don't want to know...

[snapespeare]

unbridled. Hello! I think it's fine to say you're busy tomorrow, but how about (specify day). I wouldn't worry about your opening message. :)

I got a message on linked in from a guy I dated a bit when I was 16! Added him on fb, he's married, there will be no jiggery-pokery especially as time does not look like it has been his friend but it would be interesting to see what the last 27 years has held. :)

Irrationally annoyed with PM, my first day back at my own work, no check-in, no 'good luck' for finding out about the money situation and I really can't be arsed with the lesbian-champagne-reception on Friday. It'll be a repeat of the lesbian ball, everyone being arsey and 'where have you two been?' and inappropriate singing. I don't really want to go. But it's his birthday. Quandary.

[snapespeare]

Oh and watch........... HUBBA HUBBA!!!!!!!!!!

[Yogagirl17]

Snape, how did it go first day back? And any news about the money stiuation?

Unbridled - yeah, i get that. It was really, really hard to let go of the life I thought I had. But I think until you do that it's really hard to move forward and focus on what actually makes you happy. Don't stress too much about the date, it's just coffee, just try and relax.

[snapespeare]

No news about money situation, team lovely and I've got a really interesting and pertinent policy area, so it's a fab job. V. Pleased. :).

Just hacked off with PM being all aspergic and no 'break a leg' text. . I don't want to marry him anymore. Insensitive tosser. Pffffft.

[MacAndCheese]

Don't shred it Snape!

Congratulations on your new job.

Just checking in.

[ChaoticismyLife]

snape Don't. you. dare. shred that notebook. Do hit PM over the head with it though

[watchoutforthatsnail]

Ahem. Date 5 arranged too. Even though date 4 hasnt happened yet
:)

Snape. Text him something sarky? Do you really have to go. Could you do something the night before.... or night after?

[snapespeare]

Oh, he's texted. Blown him out for the gym tonight tho'... Can't do day before, school-night (& I already have plans - lovely colleague leaving drinks) the night after he's down the sodding coast. Just got an email offering VIP area that night for a Mexican club with £140 of free drinks and a sharing platter chucked in. Might do that instead. He can go hang with the sultry lesbians.

Yay for date 5! :)

[Walkacrossthesand]

Is this thread just for those who know what it's about, or can anyone join in? Whoops - can't join in, I have No Idea what you are allon about! :-)

[OhWesternWind]

Hello Walk - sorry if it all seems a bit confusing. Come and join in, ask questions and tell all about how dating' going for you ...

[OhWesternWind]

Watch. Whoopee for date 5!! What are you planning?

[MacAndCheese]

Welcome Walk