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First Date Help

(23 Posts)
WhoopsieDoo Sun 14-Oct-12 17:50:28

Hello Everyone,

I've just got myself back on the dating scene and have been texting a guy now for quite a while. He's a single parent too, and I have a 3 month old. (been alone all through my pregancy)
Well he's asked me on a date tonight and I'm panicking. It's a no pressure date, just a walk along the beach with some chips. Is that an acceptable date?
I also went out last night and am feeling rather fragile and tired. So do I make my excuses? He is aware I am tired.
What if I go and don't find him attractive?
What do I wear?
He says to take DS is fine- it will be nice.
Please tell me your thoughts? Maybe I'm over thinking it?

Kafri Sun 14-Oct-12 17:57:30

I say go for it!! A walk and some chips sounds pretty relaxed and fun. What harm can it do.

Whenever you meet someone new you're going to have the 'what if I don't like him' or 'what if we don't get on'? At the end of the day, if you're not compatible you just don't have a second date and you go bak to the drawing board.

And if you do get on, we'll there could be many more walks along the beach to come.


WhoopsieDoo Sun 14-Oct-12 17:59:29

It's just so scary I haven't been on a date for so long

RobynRidingHood Sun 14-Oct-12 18:01:18

Ok. You're going for a walk on the beach. If you don't find him attractive, it's just a walk and a chat and a bag of chips.

What to wear? look out of the window - if you are in the Bahamas might I suggest a lotus blossom in your hair, something wafty in the breeze .... however as I suspect you are in the UK, something bloody warm and trainers!

Taking DS?? you won't have fun with a buggy. It'll either get bogged in sand or the wheels wont go over pebbles nicely.

Just treat it as making a new friend, might work out, might not. it's a nice evening for a stroll! enjoy!

doinmummy Sun 14-Oct-12 18:01:19

Just let someone know where you are going etc. Keep yourself safe and Have fun !!!

izzyizin Sun 14-Oct-12 18:03:26

Don't regard it as a date! Just see it as meeting up with a guy you've been getting along with by text with a view to a walk along a beach and having a bag of chips to replace the calories you've expended.

If he's too tight to buy you a fish to go with those chips, chuck him back and reel in another grin

izzyizin Sun 14-Oct-12 18:07:27

If the OP's in the UK I doubt that her buggy'll become stuck in the sand/pebbles, Robyn, as she can push it along the promenade to the chip shop where Elvis works.

No harm in her wearing a few chrysanthemums seasonal flowers in her hair though smile

WhoopsieDoo Sun 14-Oct-12 18:07:47

Haha it's a promenade beach and pier so buggy is okay.
Unfortunately it's the uk so I wont look filmstarish.
Ah I'd love fish- but I have a bit of a phobia of the skin smile
Thank you for putting me at eaze smile

RobynRidingHood Sun 14-Oct-12 18:17:21

ah, well, the Op didnt say there was a promenade and pier - might have been offtoDungeness to look at nesting biords over the power station chimneys wink. have we established its Brighton? Or Blackpool? Or Southend? Are there any other nice piers left?

WhoopsieDoo Sun 14-Oct-12 18:37:54

It's Eastbourne wink, quite nice. No power stations grin

RobynRidingHood Sun 14-Oct-12 18:47:32

Takea torch, its dark out grin

izzyizin Sun 14-Oct-12 18:58:20

To go with the ham and chips we now have a category for 'naice pier'. Wigan, anyone? grin

Take a torch? Don't they have street lamps in Eastbourne? Or is it for bopping him over the head if the sea air gets to his nether regions makes him turn frisky? hmm

A naice chiffon scarf tied under the chin with ends taken to the back and knotted will give you a filmstarish appearance, Whoopsie. Think Grace Kelly in To Catch A Thief or Maureen Lipman in Up The Junction wink

Kafri Sun 14-Oct-12 21:19:01

Hope you decided o take the plunge (go on the date, rather than in the sea)!!!

Fingers crossed it went well, and you're contemplating date no 2.

If not, we'll, there's plenty more fish in the sea so you may need a few more strolls down the prom to catch one.


WhoopsieDoo Sun 14-Oct-12 21:56:45

And im back, he was rather nice.
Nice and informal...
Decided to meet again and go to a proper 'plaice' for dinner. just had to get that one in
Ps, I did actually take a torch wink

Kafri Sun 14-Oct-12 22:09:48

Yey!!! Go girl. :-D x

doinmummy Sun 14-Oct-12 22:22:20

Fantastic Whoopsie

WhoopsieDoo Mon 15-Oct-12 05:15:34

He's asked me out for dinner Tuesday night. How terrifying.
I have to pick the place though, gosh how do I do that?
Would any of you lovely ladies like to assist with a outfit (since DS arrived I have no clothes)
I am a size 8 with long chocolate mahogany hair. I dont do heels, I've got some lovely long brown boots, they only go with leggings though and a lovely black blazer if that helps smile

izzyizin Mon 15-Oct-12 08:43:48

Are you sure your 'lovely long brown boots' only go with leggings? Have you tried them with mini and maxi skirts?

WhoopsieDoo Mon 15-Oct-12 09:35:25

Right im on it! Fab idea. I forgot about all this dating & outfit crisis's.
Mind you it's nice to dress nice for once.
wardrobe contents all over bed

JustMeAndTwo Mon 15-Oct-12 10:12:40

Ah that's so lovely glad it went well and good luck for Tuesday

When we were younger my friend and I used to assess clothes as to whether they are 'date wear' or not. I've just recently started dating again after about eight years and it feels funny going back to the angst of wondering whether something is acceptable 'date wear' grin

Let us know how you get on

WhoopsieDoo Tue 16-Oct-12 17:54:07

Hi everyone,
I'm dressed ( bit early) I think I look too casual.
I have a striped 3/4 sleeve top on from hm (boobs looks good) dark skinny m &s jeans, a boyfriend blazer in black, a nude
And black polka dot scarf.
Topped off with black Indian inspired beaded dolly shoes. confused

JustMeAndTwo Sat 20-Oct-12 23:10:02

Outfit sounds lovely, how did the date go?

MushroomSoup Sat 20-Oct-12 23:14:16

I want to know too!

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