Hi. I posted about 6/7 wks ago and wanted to hear opinions on my current thoughts.
After much soul searching and building up balls courage, I told my dh it was over. I told him I was unhappy, that I cared for him but do not love him in a dh and DW way. I failed to mention the years of ea as was not that brave and at times still feel maybe I am over exaggerating it all (I just don't know).
After 1 week of hell he agreed he would leave .... 6/7 weeks on he is still here through at times some days of hell. I have had it all thrown at me selfish, I don't love my children, it's only you that's not happy and I haven't even tried and should try for everyone. Proper guilt trip and not knowing what his mood will be from one minute to the next.
I take this because I have hurt him, I am the one that's ended it and feel guilty
During this time I have tried hard to find him alternative accommodation, sort out HB visit council for advise and more but he is still here!
He viewed a flat today which was ideal location and price but has advised the only good thing going for it was that it was big!
I am now looking at options but really really didn't want to go legal route 1) for my children dd 14 and ds 5, 2) I am so drained already 3) if I move out with children it is unlikely to be same area and this would really tear them apart especially if schools has to be changed.
If I go legal route occupation order etc, the guilt will eat away at me and it will turn very messy! I don't know if strong enough for this. The other option is I move out to my mums and leave children with dh until I sort it all out without them being totally witness to it all but again guilt over leaving my children behind whilst I deal with it which I will and that it would mean I am a bad mum. I just want to put them first but am so confused on what to do wih causing minimal damage to everyone. Opinions would be good. Sad truth is I am being naive thinking this would end amicable and civil but so wanted to do it with minimum of hurt especially for children and dh.
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bexsybooboo · 14/10/2012 14:23
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