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(53 Posts)
armani Sun 14-Oct-12 01:42:22

I could do with some hand holding. Sat here in tears trying not to have a panic attack.

pictish Sun 14-Oct-12 01:43:18

I am. What's happened?

Bogeyface Sun 14-Oct-12 01:43:30

What's up?

Starshaped Sun 14-Oct-12 01:44:24

Me too. You ok?

armani Sun 14-Oct-12 01:45:36

Just Dp ranting at me again. I can't take this anymore, I wish I could just escape. I wish we could be free, I sometimes wonder wtaf I have done to deserve this.

Pumpster Sun 14-Oct-12 01:47:29

What's he ranting about? sad

Longtalljosie Sun 14-Oct-12 01:48:04

We - so you have DC? Are they his? Even if they are, you still don't need to stay with someone who does this to you...

defineme Sun 14-Oct-12 01:48:23

So how often does this happen.
Tell us about your family.

Starshaped Sun 14-Oct-12 01:48:46

<holds hand>
Has he stopped ranting now? Do you feel safe?

armani Sun 14-Oct-12 01:49:45

I woke up this morning and stupidly asked him if he knew the time. He started yelling on at me for waking him, calling me a fucking bitch etc. All day he has been awful and just as I was going to bed he starts again. This time about my alarm the I have set during the week (mon- fri).
'why the fuck can't you be fucking normal and get up to the first alarm? You aren't depressed, sort your fucking life out'.
'fat retarded cunt'.

Sorry to drop feed and ramble.

Bogeyface Sun 14-Oct-12 01:51:12

Oh sweetheart sad

This is abusive and you dont have to take it. Its WRONG, HE IS WRONG.

How long have you been living like this?

armani Sun 14-Oct-12 01:51:21

Thanks for all your support and kind words.
Yes we have 3 dc under 6 yo. They are asleep in bed, I'm ok I've come downstairs. He won't get up out of bed now so I'm ok.

FamilyStress Sun 14-Oct-12 01:51:42

Goodness armani he sounds horrible. You are not the things he says you are.

Do you feel safe? x

Bogeyface Sun 14-Oct-12 01:51:57

I assume the "fat retarded cunt" was what he said when looking at himself in the mirror? hmm

armani Sun 14-Oct-12 01:52:52

I have been with him for 7 yrs bogey. Have tried to leave once before, but it all went wrong.

Pumpster Sun 14-Oct-12 01:52:53

I think speaking to women's aid might be a good idea. He is abusing you x

Bogeyface Sun 14-Oct-12 01:53:38

www.womensaid.org.uk/landing_page.asp?section=000100010018

This is the contact page for Womens Aid. Could he hear you on the phone now? If not, then call them now, while you can.

BookieMonster Sun 14-Oct-12 01:53:59

You are none of the things he says you are. He is abusive. You don't have to live like this. Have you ever spoken to Women's Aid?

armani Sun 14-Oct-12 01:54:34

Thanks family. Yes I feel safe, just I get anxious at night. I'm trying to breathe and calm down.

Bogeyface Sun 14-Oct-12 01:54:43

What made it go wrong? Has he been worse since you tried to leave?

Not being nosey, just trying to work out what has happened so we can help you xx

defineme Sun 14-Oct-12 01:55:21

This is not normal. He is abusing you.
Does your 6 yrold hear that? Or see you trying to avoid it?
Are you in this country?
Woman's Aid will help you escape.
The alternative has to be better.
A life lived in fear is no life.
Be strong for your kids.

BabylonPI Sun 14-Oct-12 01:55:51

Oh sweetie sad
You're none of those things he called you, you're a strong woman, a mum of 3 and you deserve better than him angry

I second a call to women's aid.

Good luck Armani keep posting, you'll get some fab advice here.

Bogeyface Sun 14-Oct-12 01:56:12

Call WA now, they can help. They can get you somewhere safe to stay with your children and they can help you find a permanent home.

armani Sun 14-Oct-12 01:56:40

Yes I've spoken to women's aid before, but I can't face all that again at the moment, I'm
Not strong enough.
I can't make a call now if he hears all hell will break out. Would rather just keep him sweet to get through tonight.

It's not as bad as it sounds written down.

Bogeyface Sun 14-Oct-12 01:58:27

No I bet it isnt as bad as it sounds.

I bet it is 100 times worse.

You are strong enough, you know you are. You wouldnt be on here asking for help if you werent on the threshold of breaking free.

Whatever else you do, clear your history and in future use "private browsing", so you can post here without fear of him knowing.

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