I've only posted on here a couple of times a while ago, about my alcoholic DP. Most people told me to walk away but i chose to stay. Anyway, he went to detox and was off the drink for a total of 7 weeks straight before it began to creep back up again. He has always been controlling and paranoid, although its only the last month or so I have begun to see it. Long story short I finally snapped after a heated row a few weeks ago where I was accused of hiding my mobile phone ( it had falled under the sofa cushion ) which escalated to me being thrown accross the room and having my head smacked of the wall. I changed the locks the next day after DP left for work and let him know he was no longer welcome.
Two weeks later i found out i was pregnant. An no, I am not a silly girl, I cannot take the pill so we used condoms, one broke, I got the morning after pill the same day obviously it didnt work.
I decided we should try again, we were going to have a child together. I refused to let him move back in with me but saw him everyday. I have been a little moody with him lately so decided to let him know i was sorry for it and that i appreciate all he's been doing to help me, its the hormones ect.
Then last night i got a phone call because i hadnt text him back... he had had a drink ( one he says ) and was getting shouty on the phone so i put the phone down sent him a message saying i didnt want to speak to him while he had been drinking and went to bed. A little while later my door knocked, i got out of bed an answered it, it was him, he barged into my house an upstairs searching for 'whoever i had up there' because it had taken a while for me to answer the door. Then refused to leave until i listened to him ( drunk and shouty ) told me if i told him to leave again he'd make me get rid of 'that' ( pointing at my tummy ) I tried to get into my room and lock the door just to put a barrier between us but he wedge it so i couldn't. He did finally leave.
Abortion is not an option for me, what would you do? Try an stick it out with this man or chose to become a single mother?
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AlmostPerfect · 13/10/2012 20:40
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