Have name changed as dont want to out myself.
I had my DD 16 weeks ago, it's been quite a tough ride as she had terrible reflux, projectile vomiting after every feed which in turn led to her feeding at least every 2 hours day and night. I was also diagnosed with post-natal depression and developed OCD with it- repeated cleaning routines and anxiety attacks etc.
DD refuses a bottle so I can't have much time away from her. I have managed a couple of hours here and there but very very rarely.
DP and I hadn't been living together long before I got pg- it was unplanned yet we were using contraception. We discussed it and decided we always wanted to have kids so we would go for it.
I now don't feel sure about my relationship. DP works very long hours in a high-flying profession so I often don't see much of him. When he is home he would rather be attach to his iPad than help with our daughter. He will do things grudgingly and I feel upset that our daughter is missing out.
I do most of the cooking, cleaning, washing etc. I don't mind this but I constantly ask him to make things easier for me e.g put plates in dishwasher or pick dirty clothes off the floor but he changes for a couple days then goes back to his old ways.
I confessed the other day that I have been feeling quite stressed with everything and he cracked: "you chose to stay at home and look after DD"
I feel so angry and upset with him, he can't handle looking after her for any amount of time and I haven't given up work- I go back full time in Jan at which point I will be earning more than him again.
I feel like I am a single parent doing it all myself, I am trapped right now as SMP doesn't go far so I am eating into my savings to pay the bills. When I go back to work I wonder if I should move into somewhere on my own with DD.
Sorry for my rant!
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