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It's Friday which means I can ask a sex question, right? (oral!)

(46 Posts)
YellowToeNail Fri 12-Oct-12 18:02:07

Please don't take the piss. I just want one simple answer - spit or swallow?

Backstory - Been with my boyfriend for 4 months. I'm a bit of a novice in the bedroom and haven't dare do that yet - even though he's done it to me a few times. Keep wanting to but the truth is, I don't know what the hell I'm doing blush. The last time I gave a blowjob was about 6/7 years ago and I remember a strong gag reflex - hardly romantic! But then, I wasn't really attracted to that guy so different situation this time.

So what IS the norm? spit? swallow? catch in bog roll? grin He's staying over tonight and I want to treat him. I know he's been wanting it but is too polite to ask me to do it.

Greggs/river of sweetcorn/hamster casserole etc etc

raskolnikov Fri 12-Oct-12 18:10:11

Google Tracey Cox - she'll tell you everything you need to know.

nilbyname Fri 12-Oct-12 18:12:35

Do what you like, and he will like, not what he wants you to do and what you don't like.

tanfastic Fri 12-Oct-12 18:12:40

I would gauge when they are about to come and get the hell out the way. Sorry I hate doing blow jobs so probably not the best person to comment.

Do what you're comfortable with.

Guiltypleasures001 Fri 12-Oct-12 18:19:28

Sometimes I dont want to swallow, so ehat I do is a half and half..half hand john with intermitant sucking, then when you feel him coming just ooh and ahh as if your enjoying the sight of hinm coming, let it dribble down on him, he wont care he will be too busy twitching his toes etc, and keep wet wipes near by.


purplehouse Fri 12-Oct-12 18:24:25

Depends on the man. Some men have really thick semen and it is best not to swallow this! I am perfectly happy catching it in my mouth and spitting it out. Other men have thinner semen so not really a problem to swallow. Also quantity can vary depending on what they have been up to.

I doubt he will really care tbh. One of my male friends says that he doesn't like the idea of a mouthful of cum himself and he prefers to see his partners spitting.

Oh and I take it to the bathroom and spit it in the bog if you are really that interested grin

WhoNickedMyName Fri 12-Oct-12 18:24:48

If you're gong to let him come in your mouth then you might as well swallow. I think I would be pretty upset if someone went down on me and the ran to the bathroom to spit and rinse their mouth out grin

If you don't want to swallow then plenty of saliva and swap your mouth for your hand at the last second, if you've timed it right he probably won't know the difference.

MajesticWhine Fri 12-Oct-12 18:25:30

The easy option is to suck him for a bit without him cumming - keep it slow and gentle so he doesn't. Then just move on to regular sex. He'll still be quite grateful I expect.

maleview70 Fri 12-Oct-12 18:26:09

Men prefer swallow for the simple reason that you can carry on for a short while which is an amazing experience. Only one of my exes did this though.

Either is fine but not with a tissue at hand. That gives off a vibe that it's messy and you therefore dont like it.

The best bj's are ones where you take it slowly, dont twist your hand too much and look him in the eye from time to time. Job done!

ChristineDaae Fri 12-Oct-12 18:26:24

I have never understood spitting...where d you spit? I'm like the above, sometime swallowing is ok, if i dont want to i finish it off with a hand and get my mouth the hell outta the way! Do whatever you like. I'm pretty sure he wont mind either way! He prob wont even notice!

DisappointedHorse Fri 12-Oct-12 18:27:56

If you make it much deeper as he comes then it will go straight down bypassing your taste buds.

Assuming your gag reflex will let you!

WhoNickedMyName Fri 12-Oct-12 18:28:24

And as for gag reflex, just concentrate on the end of his penis, that's where all the nerve endings are...

Deep throating is for porn only.

Fairylea Fri 12-Oct-12 18:29:53

Swallow here. But I think it's a personal thing, everyone is different.

fluffyraggies Fri 12-Oct-12 18:33:52

I was an 'avoider' with XH. Did what who said above.

Now, with new DH - i'm a swallower every time grin

Go with the flow OP. (no pun) I'd begin with a gentle suck, and then move on to sex first time. Maybe next time alternate bj and hand job - so you get the lie of the land so to speak. How he moves/feels before he cums.

Then, when you feel more confident with it go the whole way. I'd not commit to swallowing until the moment comes. Then do it if you want to ... and if in doubt - just spit it out smile

redadmiralsinthegarden Fri 12-Oct-12 18:35:04

very fast so that you don't taste it very much. oh and keep a glass of water nearby to discreetly wash your mouth out afterwards!

fluffyraggies Fri 12-Oct-12 18:36:17

And i would totally agree about the deeper the better and avoid the taste buds wink

sparkle12mar08 Fri 12-Oct-12 18:37:41

Spit every time. I hate giving blow jobs and it's vile to me, sorry. Taste, smell, texture, the neck ache, everything that goes with it. I hate it. I'll suck intermittently whilst doing it by hand but that's it.

Zorayda Fri 12-Oct-12 19:42:24

Men can be pretty visual - if you feel comfortable with the idea then asking if he'd like to give you a pearl necklace is a winner all round.

ErikNorseman Fri 12-Oct-12 20:22:15

I don't like spunk in my mouth at all, although I like giving oral. I just go down until he's about there and finish manually or by jumping on smile

OneMoreGo Fri 12-Oct-12 20:31:05

You need to check this out. Love the Over Educated Nympho. I used to read her blog all the time, she's so funny. Her website doesn't seem to be around anymore sadly but I have found one of her most read article somewhere else.. so ignore the dubious URL, it's just the words which are the main focus. grin

OneMoreGo Fri 12-Oct-12 20:31:31

P.S I'm with Erik on this one.

dondon33 Fri 12-Oct-12 20:40:57

Swallower here, but sometimes do a bit of a "pearl necklace" as well.

Take note in the above link..... Don't get it in your eye, it stings like a bastard smile and the bloodshot eye sperm ravaged eyeball look is so not sexy smile

boogieabout Fri 12-Oct-12 21:30:23

Deepthroat swallow. That way, it goes straight down to the gut bypassing taste sensors.

NellyBluth Fri 12-Oct-12 21:40:47

Spit. Generally just sort of wander off in the general direction of the bathroom, rather than running and gagging. I'm sure this means I have the taste in my mouth for longer than if I swallowed but I just couldn't, I really just can't swallow.

However sometimes I let him do the whole pearl necklace thing, and occasionally, like someone said above, I tell him he has to come on himself.

BeyondLimitsOfTheLivingDead Fri 12-Oct-12 23:00:07

Try to avoid getting it caught in your throat cause DH should have been drinking more making you gag and throw up........

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