I know this seems trivial in comparison with many issues on here, but I'd definitely appreciate some advice. My DH and I have been together nearly 5 years and have young son.
We've always bickered and argued, we are both very head strong, but it has got to the stage where it's got to stop or it will wreck what is left of our relationship. We both agree we love each other, want it to work and stay together but that it needs to improve.
I know it's hard with young children and we're both tired, but we just snipe at each other, are curt, and end up arguing over things that aren't important, perhaps as I try really hard but I just harbour bitterness about some bigger issues.
As background, I've felt quite frustrated towards him the last few years as after he took redundancy from a job in the City he chose not to get another job, but try to work for himself after no discussion with me. It wasn't really successful and we ended up spending a lot of savings and I found it frustrating that he wouldn't accept when it wasn't working and look for another job, wouldn't ever talk about it, even when I was pregnant and on maternity leave, so I've felt the main breadwinner and under pressure to provide. I work 4 days a week out the house 7am-8pm in a very stressful job. DH recently finally got a job where he works 4 days a week and as my involves a commute takes responsibility of drop offs and pick ups from childcare most days.
I guess I would just appreciate any advice on how I can just ignore the past and move on and we can improve things for ourselves. Any books or anything you can suggest. I hate this constant negative atmosphere and don't want it to affect our son. Thanks
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Please help me stop the incessant bickering
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fiorentina · 12/10/2012 15:34
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