Went to counselling with DH and he says he's leaving he is nasty when drunk, he was vile last Thursday when I told the counsellor he said he was going to leave. Now he wont speak to me when I asked if hes going tomorrow while Im at work he said he hasnt decided yet, Im devastated. Dont think hes got another woman but he might I suppose I cant afford to keep our rented house on my own. I don't know where to turn I feel sick.
Let him leave. You'll be glad when he is gone and you'll find a way to cope financially. I am trying to leave my OH and will once a few things are sorted. If he left me I'd be extatic unfortunately it's his house so never going to happen.
Don't try and stop him leaving, whatever you do! Say firmly, 'Off you go then. I'm going to work tomorrow and I expect you to be out by the time I return'. Don't ask him where he's going. Don't show any interest. You'll be much happier without this nasty man dragging you down and being vile to you. Tell him you've decided - and that the relationship is over.
I have a DC, not his so no PR been trying to speak to womens aid all evening but can't ge through. Rang the police while he was gone he came back of course just as the police turned up. Hes asleep now thank god will keep trying womens aid dont know what else to do DC says they are scared and want to leeave. You are right he is manipulating by saying he is going then not going anywhere I can usually spell sorry,
let him go. whatever you feel, bluff it. sounds like you need to start carving out a life for yourself and you could be well rid tbh.
you might find when you are not available he will need you. then you call the shots. i would continue in counselling and think long and hard about the life you want and deserve, and whether its with this man who is playing games with you.
hi unlikely no Im not in bed yet and Im ok. I would be happy if he would go but he will string it all out at very least and tbh I want it ended now, not to mess around on his terms. He was angry the police were there but knew better than to show it when they were just a phone call away.
The Police have got my number & its on thingy response so if I ring thry will attend. Sorry to drip feed although I could write a stream of consciousness today DC says they are going to treat refuge like its a holiday - what a brilliant child I have. I am still at the marital home, car is packed, just waiting for friend to get back from work so we can go round. I cant wait to be somewhere I feel safe, it already feels like Ive been tiptoeing around for so long it will be great to be able to think about me and DC. I cancelled all the bills that come from my account and sent him an email to say so, he didnt respond but Im happy with that. I hope Im allowed to watch XFactor in the refuge, its my dirty secret but Im a big fan!
we are at my friends house and safe. I don't want to be signed off just yet, I would like to go to work and try to be normal and not think about it all. I probably didn't need to tell him about the bills but when he goes home and finds the internet etc doesnt work i don't want him to think i have turned it off on purpose & for him to think its an act of aggression on my part.I have left most of my stuff in the house and don't want him to trash my stuff in retaliation.