So - I recently posted another threat about PIL's coming to stay with us shortly...
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/a1565536-To-not-want-to-give-my-in-laws-our-bed
We live in AUS now, and they are coming for 3 weeks to stay. All fine, we invited them DP is very pleased.
Now I've read via facebook that MIL has invited SIL (24, unemployed, still living at home) to come too. No one asked / mentioned anything to us, just saw SIL's status 'tossing up' whether to come or not. Of course it would be a free holiday for her - she has no means of paying her costs anyhow.
There are a few reasons why she wasn't invited by DP in the first place:
She has been very rude to me in the past after an incident with our other SIL; to the extent that when DP visited his parents in the UK last year and I phoned and asked politely to speak to him, she would not even answer me when I spoke and simply pass DP the phone.
So obviously that would be enough reason not to invite her to stay in our home - but I'm sure MIL isn't aware of the animosity between us so I can't really hold that against her but I'm really angry she didn't even think to ask us before extending the invitation to SIL. But secondly, she has no money of her own to every time we'd go out for dinner - I'd feel really resentful that I had to subsides her costs (i.e. I expect DP's parents and we would go halves). Not to mention the costs of hosting her at our home (and we'd need to get another bed as we only have 1 spare). Finally I wouldn't really want to host her for an extended period of time as she has behaved very strangely when with DP and I in the past - she seems to want reassurance that DP would side with her / do what she'd like to do (rather than what I ask him - e.g. last time we were both in the UK I had a headache and asked DP to come home with me from a family event we were at and she tried to tell me that he would be staying at the party with her). He would never do that clearly but it's grating that she behaves that way in the first place.
I am just so angry. DP says he will ring MIL and say we'd seen it and there just isn't room for her to come too. I have no idea why SIL would consider coming to stay with us anyhow - considering she hasn't spoken to me in over 2 years! I just think it is beyond ridiculous and I'm worried I'm going to feel so resentful of MIL's behaviour and attitude and it will ruin their time here.
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Fed up with DP's family - and we live 10000 miles away
smupcakes · 09/10/2012 03:04
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