Mumsnet's posters were wonderful to me last year when my marriage broke down and I divorced my ex for lots of reasons.
Since then a lot has happened and we have been embroiled in a battle for the settlement to be finalised. Today I was supposed to hear from my sol who has reached the end of her tether and had given my ex 48 hours to return the signed consent order or we go to court without further reference to him.
I have felt awful since I saw her last week when we made the decision to stop the protracted arguing over details. Our family home sold and I have a sweet little house which I'm renting whilst I decide what I can realistically do.
So I couldn't get rid of the awful feeling like my heart has sunk to the pit of my stomach - I couldn't cry and I couldn't feel anything but sadness. I texted him to say I'm sorry for the part I played in our divorce. He texted back to say he is sorry he didn't keep all the promises he made the day he married me 20 years, 2 weeks and 4 days ago.
I'm tired of blaming him, tired of the anger, the point scoring and all of that. Thing is, no matter what, the reality is that I DID play a part in killing it all. I was not a victim. And I need to let go.
Don't know what I want really. Just writing it down is good.
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Saying sorry but not forgiving - I needed to do it.
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doingwhatsgoodforme · 08/10/2012 21:50
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