I have been thinking about someone (an adult) close to me following all the recent news stories of child abuse and it worries me that it may have been a possibility.
This person is married and outwardly seems generally fine right now but from their late teens to about 5 years ago went through a horrible period of depression, self harm, alcohol and drug excess as well as sexual promiscuity that given every other aspect of their life had no real reason for it.
At the school this person went to, a teacher who would've been in close contact with them on several school trips (with overnight stays away from home) was taken to court over several counts of inappropriate sexual behaviour although he was not found guilty due to lack of evidence (a retrial was considered in some of the cases but it looks like it never happened). The case was after the person I know had left the school.
I don't know if anything ever happened or not or if it's just a coincidence. The person I know has never mentioned or suggested anything about it but I would hate for this person to not have any support or have another dark period as they did before. Given all seems fine at present, is it better to leave my thoughts unspoken (which I have until now as I really didn't want to think it could've happened) and just be there for them if they need it? Or would you ever say anything in other circumstances?
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Would you ever ask someone if they had been abused as a child?
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notsoloud · 06/10/2012 20:35
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