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So hes took my dog

(35 Posts)
Pugless Sat 06-Oct-12 12:43:25

Hi all

Just had a massive row with dp. It was all down to an argument over dcs. I have 3 dcs one ds with current dp and 2 wiith ex. The exs mum comes to pick the 2dcs up on a saturday there isnt a word said between me and her infact the kids are always (weather permitting) at the gate waiting. Anyway today the ex came wirh his mum but the usual happend dcs were waiting quickly shouted bye and off they went.

I then got a fone call from current dp asking who had been for exs dcs explained mother came and the he went off on one current dp had seen ex on his way to mine and because when current dp had asked me i didnt say ex had been also i was all the lying cows in the world.

I explained i didnt see how it was important as kids were waiting nothing was said i didnt even see ex.

Anyway he came back from work got some of his stuff took my cars and scooped up the dog annoucing its over and he hopes i rot in hell

DontmindifIdo Sat 06-Oct-12 12:47:59

Wow, there must be more to this. Is he jealous of your exp? Why shouldnt their father collect them for access rather than their grandmother (I assume it's for contact with him).

Sounds like your dp is an arse.

izzyizin Sat 06-Oct-12 12:49:13

Get the dog back and leave the irrational jealous twat to rot in hell.

If he's taken your car/cars/cards? or anything else without your permission, report him to the police.

nurseneedshelp Sat 06-Oct-12 12:50:32

Blimey, hope you're ok? You must be sat feeling really bewildered xxx

Pugless Sat 06-Oct-12 12:58:37

Dont: its a court order (domestic violence). Not jelous as such but reslly realy doesnt like him dp has said hes more angry over the fact that i didnt say ex had been aswell as his mum again told him nothing was said and i didnt see ex but now dp says that the other times when exs mum has been i have lied then amd ex has been also.

Izzy: hes just took the keys as he was driving his own so will probably send someone to get it later and the dog was more my dds dog so she is goong to be so upset.

Its not just the dog and the car his family are the only family i have (dont speak to my own due to them taking sudes with ex)

Pugless Sat 06-Oct-12 12:59:25

Apologies for shocking spelling (sodding iphone)

Xales Sat 06-Oct-12 13:04:23

So he actually knew that your ex had turned up to collect the children and deliberately set you up...

If the car/dog are yours send him something in writing text/email informing him to return them with immediate effect or you will go to the police.

Pugless Sat 06-Oct-12 13:08:55

Yes thats exactly what he did then claimed that he wasnt botherd ex had been but more about me not saying when he asked that ex had been i just said exs mum

NervousAt20 Sat 06-Oct-12 13:09:24

Get the dog back and get rid of him

Smeghead Sat 06-Oct-12 13:11:42

Why is he helping himself to your car and your pet?

Text him one warning that if they are not back in your posession by 4pm then you will be calling the police and reporting them as stolen.

Leverette Sat 06-Oct-12 13:12:04

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izzyizin Sat 06-Oct-12 13:31:37

Despite knowing how much it would upset your dd, he took the dog and he took your car keys in order to spite you by preventing you being able to go out without having to take a bus/taxi.

He's a nasty vindictive piece of work and you and your dc will be infinitely better off without his malign presence in your home.

I wouldn't bother to give him a warning; I'd give him a shock and get on to the police.

How fucking dare he treat you this way!!! Utterly despicable behaviour from an immature twat who no doubt calls himself a 'man'.

Get your dog and your keys back and tell him to fuck off to the far side of fuck and when he gets there, tell him to stay there until he's grown up.

Pugless Sat 06-Oct-12 14:02:21

Yes i am passive i never used to be but im at the stage where i couldnt give monkeys about the relationship i think. I do love him and the kids love him and the good times do outweigh the bad.

The car and dog were given to me by him as presents so i guess this makes him think that he has the right to take them back.

DontmindifIdo Sat 06-Oct-12 14:04:37

Who's name is the car registered in? If it's yours, then the car belongs to you, he can't just take it.

Time to stand up for yourself.

Pugless Sat 06-Oct-12 14:07:45

The car is in my name i pay the insurance from my bank. The car is still outside so im guessin i will have to wait until it gets taken before i can report it.

OldLadyKnowsNothing Sat 06-Oct-12 14:11:01

You don't let it be taken in the first place, you just ask for your keys back.

MissVerinder Sat 06-Oct-12 14:23:54

I think that legally, if they were a gift (and not a priceless antique heirloom worth £1m) they are yours.

izzyizin Sat 06-Oct-12 14:38:03

So [edited by MNHQ] what are you doing with this unlovely and unloveable tosspot?

You won't be reporting your car stolen - you will be reporting the fact that your car keys and your dog were taken without your permission by a 'man' who is and was determined to cause you as much distress as possible because you failed to notice that your ex had accompanied his dm to collect your dc for their regular contact.

What kind of example are you setting your dc? FGS don't just sit there and take it, woman. Get on to the police and give him due warning that you won't be walked over by someone who's not fit to lick your boots any more.

Whocansay Sat 06-Oct-12 14:38:38

Would he hurt the dog out of spite?
If this may be the case, call the police. In fact, I'd probably do it anyway. He sounds like he has a few screws loose.

Pugless Sat 06-Oct-12 15:40:03

No he wouldnt hurt the dog. Hes had some bad news this week a member of his family is seriously ill (hes very close to them) and hes not handling it very well which im supposing is whats caused todays outburst hes not much of a talker emotions wise.
So i think he was looking to pick an argument and vent some of his hurt on to me (i dont want to seem like im making excuses) most of the time we get on really well. We have had rough patches like most couples but we get through them.

I know hes in the wrong and i would rather him just tell me whats wrong instead of causing arguments.

Whocansay Sat 06-Oct-12 15:47:01

Sometimes people have bad news. It is not an excuse for this kind of behaviour. Have you ever tried to hurt someone else because a family member was ill? Don't make excuses for him.

I'd still contact the police on the non emergency line. If nothing else, you have an official record of what he's up to.

izzyizin Sat 06-Oct-12 15:53:02

You are making excuses for him when you should be sending him a clear message that, regardless of any stress he may be under, his behaviour is inexcusable.

It's shocking that he deliberately set out to hurt your dd by taking your dog and I find it equally shocking that you're sitting there waiting for him to send someone to drive your car away.

You sound completely downtrodden and you must know that kowtowing to this horrible twat is a dreadful example to set your dc.

Pugless Sat 06-Oct-12 16:22:30

Dog has now been returned heard the back door open and in she came followed up by a fone call from him stating that he had taken the dog to show the owners of a stud dog we are using.

Tbh im not sure i want the relationship anymore. But the thought of being a single mum makes me scared ive done it before and it was hard.

Pugless Sat 06-Oct-12 16:27:33

I no its not a very good example im setting by allowing this to happen.

Whocansay: yes ive been a first class bitch at times (taste of my own medicine?)

I told that he was a twat for taking the dog as he knows dd would have been upset he told me that if the stud dogs owner hadnt foned he wouldnt have took her.

Still no car keys though

izzyizin Sat 06-Oct-12 16:30:30

And did the dog have your car keys hanging from her collar?

Being a single parent isn't easy but it has to be preferable to living with this level of gross twattery and downright unreasonableness.

You've got to get yourself out of the mindet that any man is better than none because it just ain't true.

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