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just had baby but confused about partner

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mummyfirsttime Fri 05-Oct-12 21:21:32

My baby is 7 weeks old and both my partner and I love him so much and wouldn't chabge him for the world. However I feel that the connection between my partner and I has gone. I know things can be different for a while after having a baby we have not yet had sex etc as yet but I feel sometimes we are roommates. Any help as to what to do would be much appreciated I do love him with all my heart but feel things are changing and I don't like it.

maleview70 Fri 05-Oct-12 21:24:16

Things do change and seven weeks is nothing. Just try and have a little bit of time together when you can and always remember why you decided to have a baby with your dp in the first place.

CogitoErgoSometimes Fri 05-Oct-12 21:30:18

Somehow in your schedule you need to make time for yourselves as a couple. It's really easy for a tiny baby to take up all your attention and the fatigue can be horrible but, even if you can only snatch a few hours between feeds, make an effort to reconnect with each other as adults.

hoopieghirl Sat 06-Oct-12 10:08:43

Be gentle with yourself, your life has changed dramatically with the birth of baby. It will take time to settle down into a routine.

BlameItOnTheBogey Sat 06-Oct-12 10:17:15

I remember reading a description in a newspaper about what life is like in the first few months after having a baby. It said; it feels like running a small nursery with someone you used to date.

That really stuck with me and god it was true at first. But it isn't like this forever. The relationship does come back. But you need to manage your own expectations a bit, this could take some time.

Best of luck.

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