a post about my friend with back story so will be long (sorry but dont know what to do anymore)
Friend, well flatmate at the time lets call her Sue meets guy online and starts chatting to him, he lives far in ireland us in scotland. Prior to this, she has been single for a while, has hooked up with a few guys nothing serious.
gets on great with him, lots of chatting 10 days after first conversation online I hear her on the phone to him, while putting down the phone " love you" is said.
I ask Sue, whats that about, she replys she is on love with internet guy.
I obviously ask more questions about online friend. Online friend, is divorced, with 5 children, that don't see him, is a paranoid Schizophrenic on medication due to excessive cannabis and magic mushroom use over many years. So doesnt work and lives on an island off the coast of ireland.
Sue continues to chat with him and goes to meet him in ireland, comes back ever so happy, invites him over to scotland for new year.
I accept this is happening even though i am not happy about it, but can quiz online friend when he is here.
I meet him, he is interesting......though don't really get a chance to be by myself to have a proper chat with him, Sue seems to be hiding him,but he obviously very controlling, seems to have brain washed Sue, is pushing the how finding godgot me over my addiction a bit, and i am then informed they are moving back to the island he lives on together in a few weeks.
So I pass on advice, but can't stop Sue from doing anything, so she goes.
Apparently everything is rosy, they have a whole "good life" set up with a bit of land and animals. He has met with her family they all get on, its delightful.
It transpires he is getting more controlling, shes really lonely, so they move closer to things, Sue gets on a course she wants to do and is doing volunteering and really happy.
I then get contacted as she is utterly miserable want to come back to scotland. with the words "its not as if he hits me" but im not happy.
I offer her a plane ticket, a flat to stay in for free till she is sorted, and the option of a job when she gets here.
.........All goes quiet, she says she wants to stay, sorry for mucking me about but she wants to make it work.
I let it go, she has now contacted me again, he is going mental on his meds and smacking her about and she doesn't feel safe and wants to leave.
This has happened over the last 2 year period. If you could give me your advice and i will send her this thread, because i can't cope with it anymore.
and im reallysorry its so long, but had to get all the points in
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had this in chat, but might get more help in here, she still wont commit to leave!
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stokemeaclipper · 04/10/2012 20:23
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