He's one of my oldest, bestest friends. I always liked this woman before they were married. I guess I didn't really pay too much attention to their relationship as we mainly used to hang out in a big group so any weird dynamics would've been diluted.
They broke up for a couple of months a few years ago because she had aggression problems with drinking and actually pulled a knife on him during an argument.
But they patched things up and had a massive, balls-out wedding last year.
Since then my friend has confided in me a couple of times that all they do is row. Rows always started by her over nothing. He sounds exhausted by it all. I've also noticed that when we're all out together she subtly undermines him. One time she even blurted out to the whole table something quite sensitive that he'd obviously told her in confidence. I thought that was pretty shitty of her.
The thing is, she's not an evil person. Her family background is really tragic and messy and she obviously just hasn't dealt with a bunch of stuff. But I resent her for taking all that out on my friend.
I spoke to him today and he sounded so down. Said she'd been at him for three days straight and they hadn't spoken for a day.
What do I say to that? LTB? I don't know how to be supportive because I don't think it's a healthy relationship.
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I feel like my friend's new wife is being emotionally abusive towards him but I'm not sure if it's any of my business. What can/should I do?
madonnawhore · 02/10/2012 22:51
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