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Asked husband for divorce

(7 Posts)
CatKitson Sat 29-Sep-12 13:47:42

Ive asked him for a divorce, and told him he is to find somewhere else to stay from now.

I dont want to go into it all too much, Im scared Ill get a bollocking to be honest, but I dont know what else to do.

susiedaisy Sat 29-Sep-12 14:02:12

A bollocking off of who?
Have you told anyone else in real life about your plans so someone else knows what happening?

CatKitson Sat 29-Sep-12 14:08:13

Yeah, Ive told family. He is going to stay with his father. Im a bit too upset to speak to friends just yet.

Its all civilised, but it really is over. Im sorry. I guess I dont want to let family or the children see Im upset. Ill be fine.

susiedaisy Sat 29-Sep-12 14:18:16

Lots of us have been where you are now, take each day as it comes, i would find a good family solicitor, phone tax credits and see if are able to get some financial help, speak to dc school let them know that dc may need a bit extra support, phone council tax office you will be entitled to single adult occupancy now which gives you 25% off council tax, I found making lists helped me feel more in control of the chaos, I was able to have some counselling through my work which I found really helpful, keeping the dc routine helped them feel more secure, you will get through this but it will take a while

Take care x

Sunnywithachanceofshowers Sat 29-Sep-12 14:20:24

No bollocking from me. <proffers hand> I divorced my XH and, although it was the right decision entirely, it wasn't easy.

Hugs x

CatKitson Sat 29-Sep-12 14:28:27

He has gone. Im going to see a solicitor on Monday and get it all sorted out. We homeschool, so the kids will be close to me, and fine. Ill make sure we go visit their friends, and do lots of lovely things.

Im sad, but he wants to be alone, and make decisions alone, so its better I have no illusions about that and we both know where we stand. Ill be quite alright, I do everything anyway, and have done for quite some time. To be honest Ill be happy not to worry about him.

I have moved heaven and earth to give the marriage a good go, for the children's sake. I thought we could be alright.

susiedaisy Sat 29-Sep-12 14:36:57

It's normal to be sad, it's like a bereavement in a way, grieving for the future you thought you were going to have for you and your dc, everything changed when my exH and I separated my whole future shifted and I was absolutely gutted and frightened but you adjust, tbh I was running the house and the dc on my own anyway because my exH did nothing, and once my finances were sorted I realise that practically I could carry on as normal, emotionally is a different story that takes a lot longer.

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