I have a wonderful partner, I really do. But lately, I've started to find his language really offensive. Any annoying person on TV is a c* and he drops the f-bomb all over the place. Sometimes with a choice racial epithet too (I'm mixed race, and he doesn't treat anyone of a different race badly, he just seems to think its normal).
Lately he's started to say things about colleagues that.annoy him like, "oh, I wish he'd die". He makes slapping noises with his hands when he does it. I just feel that hints of violence from your partner are definitely not on.
Last night in the pub, he asked me what I wanted to drink and I said, "surprise me". He did the slappy thinby my face before going to the bar. He got a stony response from me and our friends for that. I mentioned that he seemed aggressive and he calmed it down a bit. We can all be a bit inappropriate after a few, but that was embarrassing.
The racist language we've talked about before. I actually think it suggests that he's intimidated by people of a different race to him, but don't see why as we live in a very diverse community. He still shouldn't bloody do it, and to be fair after we last discussed it he hasn't dobe it again for ages.
The violent language definitely started after a visit from his mum, who we stay away from as she is violent. She does exactly the same slapping action.and he language is also appalling. Dp commented on this at the time (about a month ago) so find it strange that he's followed suit.
I'm going to sit him down later and tell him this as it's not on. I tried last night and he gave me some sweary guff about free speech, plus we'd both had too many. I just made a joke about his poor Lang skills despite habit an English degree. He's cuddly this morning so will be receptive I hope. Just wanted your thoughts...
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Pinkmoon84 · 29/09/2012 08:45
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